AboutVaughn Gardner Expertise I can't think of any questions that I can't answer. However, I've learned over the years that I hardly hold all the answers in the world. So, if questions arise that I can't answer, first I'll check the Net to see if there are any, and then pass it on the questioner, second if I can't find any I'll refer them to someone who can.
Experience I, myself, am a 51yr old FtM, currently pre-op, who began on my own transgender journey in 2000, so I'm familiar with what brought me to the realization that I was/am transgender and the trials and tribulations that can come along the way
Organizations APA (American Psychological Association) Undergraduate Student Afiiliate Member ACA (American Counseling Association) Undergraduate Student Member I'm a co-founder of the community college PRISM club (People Respecting Individuals and Sexual Minorities); served as one of two Co_Chair positions in 2007.
Education/Credentials I'm pursuing a degree in psychology (A.A. awarded in 2007, now pursuing my BA - 2009, MA and/or PsyD - a year or two later) and my focus will be with the gay/bisexual/lesbian/trans, particularly in the trans, areas. Other I've spoken on college campuses on being transgender as well as every quarter during my time at CC I spoke to the Human Sexuality class as well as the Gender and Society class when it was offered. I am a licensed ULC minister and have served as a high priestess for an online coven prior to my beginning the trans journey. I was a pentecostal for 25yrs before leaving the church and now follow an eclectic Wiccan path.
Question I am a 16 yr old crossdresser.I love women and is not a gay or a transgender.I live in India.I and my sister share same room.I used to dress as girl in frnt of her at night.She used to think it was bcoz of my childish behaviour.Recently i told my sister tht i am a crossdresser and doesnot dress for fun but am addicted to this.I told her tht i didnot need a sexchange but just want explore my feminine side and buy my own makeup and wig.She started to cry and told tht she knows tht it is not my fault and told me to control the urge for one week.After one week i again told her tht it was uncontrollable so she started to cry and said she cant allow mr to dress as this is unnatural.i told her tht i wont go out dressed but se kept telling tht it was unnatural so she cant allow it.She told this to her boyfriend also and both tell me to control my urge.after repeated request she allowed me to crossdress once a month but she stopped talking to me of the femine things as we did before and she has also become a bit rude.Plzz help what shall i do so tht she starts to help me in crossdressing.
Answer Anisha,
There's nothing I can tell you that will make your sister accept your crossdressing or assist you in it. That is a decision that she needs to make on her own and at this time, that just doesn't seem possible for her.
You say you are 16. I'm wondering why you enjoy cross-dressing. Is it because it's a sexual turn on for you? Or is it because you like the feel of women's clothing? Or is it because it you feel you have feminine attributes? Or????
By the way even though you're a CD it doesn't mean you're gay but you are transgender. Being transgender doesn't mean you want a sex change it just means that you dress and act as the opposite gender from time to time or all the time depending on the person. And besides, a CD is usually someone who loves(likes) the opposite gender - in your case girls - so don't worry about that part.
I'd like you to write me again and tell me more about yourself. As a result I'll see if I can find some suitable websites for you to visit where you can get support, particularly from people (old or young) in India as a CD.
I look forward to discussing this further with you.
