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I'm Seth and am 26. I live in the UK as an au pair at the moment, where I am still treated as a girl (I don't want to confuse the kids I look after), but I will soon stop working for them and start to find a 'proper' job.
I'm starting my transition (have an appointment with a mental health team on the 10th) so will be further along the way by the time I start to search.
The question I am asking myself is that, when I write my cover letter, if I write them with the name and gender I am (male), and to only explain the ins and outs once I have the job and a legal name is needed for bank transfers or the gender my birth certificate says I am (female) and explain that I am transitioning and prefer to be called Seth and not Sarah and to be referred to by male pronouns?
One thing is sure is that, no matter where I am in my transition at that time, I will not be able to deal with being treated like a girl when I am not. It is after all the reason why I've decided to leave the family I live and work with...
In any case, thank you for your answer!

Hi there, Seth!

Sorry about the delay on this. Life has been what could politely be called 'hectic' lately.

Now, you're asking this of yourself, so in the end, only *yourself* can answer that. However, if you're asking an opinion from me on this, I wouldn't be hiding behind anything. I would make it quite obvious from the get-go. You are a male. You were born a female, and are presently under transition. Be polite, of course, but be firm. And when you actually go to any job interviews or whatever, present yourself as male as you can. This will help put it in their mind that you are serious about the matter.

The reason I say this is because, as you say yourself, you would need to explain it at some point. What would be easier? Finding out *before* you ever get a job that your boss-to-be is extremely uncomfortable with your gender and will cause issues? Or after you have been working there for a while? In my opinion, I would want to know, right from the get-go, what their impression of me as 'me' would be. You don't necessarily need to rub it in their face, but if there is a definite chance that it would come up (like you said: biological information needing to be shared), then hiding it until then will just make you seem deceptive to them. Be honest with them, and let them be honest with you, basically.

Hopefully that was helpful to you! Questions, comments, feedback, follow-ups are welcome!



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