About Natasha Wallis Expertise If someone is experiencing problems with their gender and wishes to develop coping strategies to move forward, stay still or cope without changing gender, I should be able to provide some help. Also anyone who needs advice on how to pass, transition, have surgeries and live successfully as a woman will get valid sensible advice
Experience I am a postoperative ts woman who has been involved in personal development, motivation, life coaching and mentoring all my life. I have had extensive FFS and SRS surgery and am a senior moderator on some well known support sites. Designed and led "Why me? Am I transsexual" and Employer/employee Diversity Training Workshops.
Publications Msn & Yahoo Support Groups on matters relating to transsexual people.
Education/Credentials BA Biology; Personal Motivation Trainer; Qualified Mediator. Mentor
Awards and Honors Small Business Award Winner 1995
Question Hi, i am 15, going on 16, and i enjoy crossdressing, I do not have any desire to become a woman, and neither am I attracted to other crossdressers. I have been dressing since about the age of 12/13 using my sisters clothes, i enjoy doing it while i am dressed, but always feel so guilty afterwards.
I do not particularly wish to stop dressing (i have tried many times, but i just can't) but i am wondering if there is anything i can do about the guilt that i always get, what do you think i should do?
Answer Hi David
There is no reason why you should be attracted to other crossdressers nor should you feel in any way guilty about what for you will live with you for the rest of your life.
You will still have a need to express your femininity occasionally even when you are old and grey, so accepting that as a positive part of your personality will help somewhat.
I imagine that the guilt begins soon after you have orgasmned after masturbation? All men experience a change of desire after orgasm, so want to go to sleep, others have a shoer, others leave the woman (or man) and get away fast. Since you associate your pleasure with cross dressing, then you want to remove the clothes as quick as possible but over time, you are drawn back to them?
but cross dressing is harmless and many women can help you embrace or at least tolerate this need you have in future. It is just telling your girlfriend of your interests. Once you have shared your interest with other people, then you will realise it is not something to feel guilty about.
The guilt stems from you seeing yourself outside society's norms but in reality there are millions of men all over the world who enjoy cross dressing - probably as many who enjoy angling or golf !!!
If it really worries you, go discuss it with a therapist but please do not think you can be "cured" you cannot not least becuiase you are not ill in the firsat place. It is an interest that you will be able to enjoy throughout your life. Count yourself lucky even.
Also, when you are 18 you can join a local cross dressing club either online or one that meets in a bar or church hall - but beware, some TVs are very gay and very predatory.
I thought I was a TV for 48 years and was totally only into women and to an extent still am despite now being very much a woman, so sexuality has nothing to do with gender identity or expression.
You are not gay necessarily but even if you were, there is nothing "wrong" with that either.
Just do not "purge" your clothes - you will regret losing some favourite items if you do.
