About Natasha Wallis Expertise If someone is experiencing problems with their gender and wishes to develop coping strategies to move forward, stay still or cope without changing gender, I should be able to provide some help. Also anyone who needs advice on how to pass, transition, have surgeries and live successfully as a woman will get valid sensible advice
Experience I am a postoperative ts woman who has been involved in personal development, motivation, life coaching and mentoring all my life. I have had extensive FFS and SRS surgery and am a senior moderator on some well known support sites. Designed and led "Why me? Am I transsexual" and Employer/employee Diversity Training Workshops.
Publications Msn & Yahoo Support Groups on matters relating to transsexual people.
Education/Credentials BA Biology; Personal Motivation Trainer; Qualified Mediator. Mentor
Awards and Honors Small Business Award Winner 1995
Question Hello Jennifer! I am a 17 (almost 18) y/o male. I will first say that my
personality can be described as mostly feminine. I am caring, empathetic,
passionate, philosopher, etc. I have been dealing with some issues lately
reguaring transexuality. For as long as I can remember, I have always loved
the idea of me putting on make-up and putting on women's clothing. I
currently shave everywhere from the neck down. I also love both men and
women, as far as an intimate relationship. I love both the male and female
figures. I like the idea of me having breasts, vagina, beautiful hair, painted
nails, shaved, and makeup, but I also like the idea of being a male with a
muscular figure. There is something about body hair that doesn't attract me
too much. Besides having talked to my psycologist, who doesn't know too
much about the issue, I have also done a great deal of research online, and
am at a crossroad right now. I am wondering if I am wanting a sex change for
the right reasons. Please help me!
Answer Hi Adam
Most young people dabble with their gender in modern cultures these days and you are probably no different.
Why worry about labels and needing a "sex change" for the moment and discover more about the ambivalence you seem to be experiencing as in having a fantasy view of being a woman and yet liking the idea of a male Adonis.
It might be that you find the thought of having a woman's body very stimulating as an adjunct to masturbation and if this imagery appeals at a sexual stimulation level then you might need a great deal more soul searching befoe you would feel gender re-assignment would be any help.
Hormone therapy will remove your libido, make you sterile and reduce your upper body mass considerably so you would have to wave goodbye to the Adonis image. Also, whilst it all might seem terribly appealing as fantasy, the majority of transsexual women face daily harassment and discrimination at work and in their everyday lives. Their ability to win and keep a lover of either sex is substantially reduced unless you are willing and able to spend a great deal of time and money looking and sounding perfect.
Why not see how you fit emotionally by spending some time away from home being the girl you think you might be - not going to gay friendly places but doing everything ordinary girls do, like shopping for groceries and hanging out in the mall. You might soon learn how tricky it is to pass well as a girl and how easy it is to stand out as "not quite right".
There is nothing disgraceful about having fantasies about being a woman and it is thought that up to 50% of all men have at some point cross dressed. Why not take in your oars metaphorically and give vent to this woman you think you might be, starting with an appropriate girl's name.
Gender issues have no relevance to sensuality however and yet many young men mistake their gay side as wanting to be a woman whereas most gay guys are into men looking like men.
A good starting point is to do the Cogiati test and read www.tsroadmap.com - and read every page.
