Twins/Triplets/Clomid Multiples


grace wrote at 2006-08-30 16:06:43
I concieved multiples with Clomid and it was a diaster. i did not intend on having twins, but I was dealing with fertility issues. they were born premature (30 weeks) and both had long stays in the NICU. Its no joking matter, it has been alot of work and costed a lot of money. I would NOT RECOMMEND taking Clomid unless you fully understand the repercussions.  

Lucy wrote at 2006-09-08 21:26:51
This is the most insane thing I have ever heard!  First of all, if you've done even 5 minutes of research on clomid you would know that you have a 90% chance of having a single birth.  I think that your marriage is already in trouble if you think the ONLY way to save it is by having more kids.  More kids adds more stress to a marriage.  Maybe you married the wrong person.   You and your husband should have been on the same page with the number of children you wanted BEFORE you got married.  What will happen if you don't have 4 kids?  I am struggling to get pregnant with one child.  You should be happy that you have any children instead of trying to abuse a drug used to help people that really need it.  

Bern wrote at 2006-11-01 14:14:20
I couldn't agree more.  I am the mother of 2 year old triplet boys.  The stress of having three babies to care for has taken an incredible toll on us as individuals and our marriage. My boys were full term, all over six pounds and healthy, but I am the exception. We love our boys, but it has been so hard.  You would be amazed by the amount of people who used to be in our lives and no longer are. It has really sorted out who our true friends are, and you can be sure it is a very short list.  So DO NOT TAKE CLOMID. If there are already cracks in your marriage, the stress of multiples will blow it apart.

shelly wrote at 2007-05-22 08:43:14
I think it is a great idea. I am going to do the same thing.  Almost the same situation, and you might also take dhea, I was just reading how it helps you to produce more eggs as well. Let me know how it is going.

Seeking to be mom... wrote at 2007-12-03 19:22:07
I question your doctor for allowing you to utilize Clomid without having a reason to take it.  I am on Clomid and I hate the effects I get on the medication.  However, having said that, I don't have a choice at the moment, since I really want to have a child.  You have been blessed with two, you should be thankful and spend as much time as you can with them.  As for saving your marriage? I believe you are feeling a void and having more children will not fill that void.  I agree, you should probably seek counseling to determine what that void is.  If your marriage is on the rocks (not being able to stay married, unless you have more children) then both you and your husband need to seek counseling.  I know you said that you have already conducted research on Clomid and that you know that you are fine with it.  However, each individual is different and you could be that 1% that experiences side effects that are far too great to handle.  Be happy that you are so fertile and that you can have children so easily and that you have two healthy children.  Just some advice...

www wrote at 2008-04-06 22:36:18
Take Clomid and enjoy being pregnant. Many women are doing the same. You have only 10% chance of having twins, but 10% is 10 times more than 1%. I have several friends with twins - it is just twice fun.

Ana wrote at 2008-04-09 14:33:09
I think that your relationship with your husband shouldn't depend on how many children you have. It seems like you don't really love your husband; all you care about is your children and yourself and you are willing to risk your marriage for you own selfish desire of having 4 kids. You need help!

mar wrote at 2008-08-01 16:18:20
That is way too much responsibility and pressure to put upon a child!  A baby should never be born with the job to save a marriage!  Get some help!

casj wrote at 2009-03-09 16:35:03
If you can't stay married with 3 kids what in the world makes you think you will be able to stay married with 4. that has to be one of the more crazy things i've heard in a while.

LaurelNoodle wrote at 2009-05-04 04:16:38
Oh boy sweety...i think the last thing that you need right now is adding kids to the mix.  Let me tell you something that i guess no one in your life is willing to tell's time to work on your marriage!!!  But that's not a bad thing, it's a great thing!  But believe me, the only thing that you can add to your marriage that can fix it, is God!  He can restore and rebuild whatever it is in you that thinks that this will fix you and make you happy.  Children don't complete you, and if you are having them for that reason, you are going to be very disappointed.  Only God can do that baby girl!  Hope this helps.

jenna wrote at 2009-06-06 08:30:51
kids are NEVER the answer to save your marriage.  If your marriage needs more kids to save it--you will trap him and he will end up hating you and want out.  You should not trap a man into a marriage he doesn't want to be in. You both need to go to marriage counseling.

jenny wrote at 2009-10-20 00:35:31
no you definately shouldnt lie to your husband.  I have triplets and i took clomid to get them.  there is a very small chance of having triplets on clomid but it does happen.  i love my babies more than anything but i really wish they would have come one at a time.  it is too stressful for both me and the babies.  i spend $250 in diapers and wipes every month!!!

Brandee wrote at 2010-02-23 17:50:44
I know this was like two years ago, and I am on clomid now so was researching, and couldn't believe what this nut wrote about her marriage being unbearable and not being able to live a happy life with two kids.  There are people out there that can't even have one.  You so need to seek counceling, whether you had twins or got your four or not.  I hope for her children's sake she has grown up since writing this e-mail...   Brandee

Mandi wrote at 2010-02-26 06:23:36
I agree with (brandee) My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 2 years still with no success...yet but I am on clomid not by choice and understand the risk of multiples. I am not greedy with the amount of children God gives me I will be happy with one healthy baby. I would never lie to my husband or try to trick him into anything. That is just wrong!

TTC #2 wrote at 2010-03-18 17:17:06
You should NEVER do anything as serious as taking fertility medication without telling your husband. That is deceptive. I agree with the previous poster. If you feel like you can't survive in life without another child and you're considering deceptive acts behind you husband's back, you really, seriously need to seek counseling and help. If you are not OK with just yourself yourself, you'll never be the best mother you can be.

k5252 wrote at 2010-05-02 16:05:12
Those who can't even have ONE baby would be a little hurt by your claim that you can't make it through life without 4 kids....whatever happened to being thankful for what you HAVE. If your marriage will not work with 3 kids, I would assume 4 kids is not the magic answer. Having children is not a cure for a bad relationship.  

Carmen wrote at 2010-10-10 05:59:28
If you want to take fertility drugs behind you husbands back, its nit possible. They will want to test him too. Also, do you want to be a single parent welfare case after he dumps you?

Mr.Man wrote at 2013-01-02 21:06:31
yall just mad!!!!! Frist and for most don't blame a drug on your broken marriage!!!! it was doom from the began!!! What yall female need to learn is that a baby don't keep no man around!!! once you realize that your life well be much better!!! You should be happy that you have a baby, cause it a whole lot of female that would love to have a baby with no man at all!!!! So if you really believe that having more than one baby broke your marriage than you're a sad soul!!!!!!


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I can answer questions on PCOS, Clomid, spontaneous reduction, preterm labor, severe prematurity, micropreemies, NICU, how to raise triplets without outside help, life with triplets and more, cerebral palsy, visual impairments, Asperger's/autism, and breastfeeding.


I have bgg triplets born in 1999 and three more boys born in 2002, 2006, and 2008, the last two by VBA2C (vaginal birth after 2 cesareans). My triplets were born at 26 weeks. My singletons were all full-term and fully breastfed. We have raised our triplets with no help and with a blind father. One of our triplets is also disabled with mild CP and mild autism, two have some vision problems, and one has had lung issues since birth.

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