UK Relationships/What should a mother do?


QUESTION: What should a mother do? Her 16-year-old daughter tells her that she is pregnant, and the father of her unborn child is 35 years old. She tells her that she wants her child to have a good relationship with the child’s biological father. This 35-year-old man knew that it is legal for him to have sex with a 16-year-old girl in Scotland, because he asked a lawyer.

ANSWER: 16 vs 34 so not legal;He can go to jail still if the girl goes to apply to receive child support from him. It will show that he is of age and she isn't and wasn't when the first baby was born. and the state will go after him as a sex offender. At least in NC they will charge him with Statutory rape
Doesn't matter what the sixteen year old wants--She's a minor. It all comes down to what her parents decide. Adults can't be having sex with minors. the girl's parents has to press charges. pertaining to sexual relations with a minor. A statutory rape charge is very possible, sexual battery, sexual explotation, child abuse and any number of other offenses against a minor child most of which are felonies.I seldom make personal comments, but in this case I wonder just "What are the parents thinking to allow such a thing?"

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QUESTION: In Scotland it is legal for a 35 year old man to have sex with a 16 year old girl, but in North Carolina this would be statutory rape? Her 16 year old daughter wants her child to have a good relationship with the biological father, because she thinks it is very important.

Involvement, influence, and affection: three keys to father-child relationships. Though they may sometimes find it difficult to express their feelings, most fathers care about their children and families/"closeness," and "being together" as personally important.a good relationship needs three things: involvement, respect and influence, and affection.[Involvement: The Foundation of a Relationship
The first step in any relationship is the feeling by both persons that the other is interested in them and wants to be with them. Many fathers begin to prepare for this kind of relationship before their child is even born. A father who seeks involvement is interested in his girlpregnancy and makes preparations for the child's birth. When the child is born he is eager to hold the infant. In countless small ways, this father demonstrates involvement - he may gently touch and play with his children, hold and talk to them. By doing these things he sends a clear and emphatic message:I want to be your father. I am interested in you. I enjoy being with you. You and I have a relationship that is important to me.Every child wants to sense this type of involvement from his or her father and mother. Without it, a child feels isolated and rejected. The foundation of the relationship crumbles.How can fathers become more involved with their children? First, they can give each of their children exclusive attention as often as possible. During their time together fathers could enjoy their children's company without allowing outside distractions to interfere. As a result, their children would feel noticed and special. There is no single formula for how this might be accomplished. A father and child might play, talk, learn a skill or read together. What is important is that they notice each other and acknowledge a common interest. This type of undistracted attention promotes a sense that each is important to the other.  

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