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Hello, can you "look for love" or does it just happen?. You hear people saying you meet people by having hobbies, going out etc yet it still doesn't happen for me, then you might hear people say you don't find love, it finds you eg I met my partner by chance in the supermarket for example???. Can it be a case of the harder you try, the less success you might have?.

Feel free to ask me any questions,

Thank you.

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Don't look for love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love, you don't force yourself to fall, you just do.I personally believe in Jeremiah 29;11[old testament bible]Because it will happen when you are least expecting it to. Do not worry, you are still young and will meet your romeo..just wait! Patience is a virtue!!
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime... When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.....

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy...Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season....

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons--those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

Some of you are more than friends--you are family. And some of you are more than family--you are friends.
I believe that it comes to you, if you go looking for love odds are you will find someone that you care for alot, but not truly love but will have an expectation of loving them. In the end it will create hardship and confusion because the feeling isnt really true. When the time is right the right person will walk into your life and show you what true love is really all about. It's always when you arent expecting it because you arent actually looking for it to happen, it just does. It is much more rewarding to just realize one day "holy crap, I'm in love". Take your time, it'll come, dont rush it and just let it happen. Good luck! People are more attractive when they don't come off as desperate. If you are happy with yourself and enjoying life, not looking for someone to fulfill you, you will naturally attract someone. Thus, love blooms. So I would say that some of the responsibility to allow love to happen is in your hands, but love finds you. Love isn't something you can search for. Its something you can open yourself up to...but you just have to wait it out. Don't mistake lust for love. Its just a wolf in sheeps clothing.... love is confusing the only predictible thing about it is that it will end great or it will end horribly. but the biggest thing is to make sur that you are not blinded by it When you are meant to find that special someone dont' worry he will find you. In the mean time, enjoy yourself. go out with your girlfriends or even by yourself. Life is too short to wait for mr right, he will find you ;it is a matter of fate I would think, um I do think love finds you because when you look for it, most of the time you would take anyone you feel a slight attraction to, and think this is the one. I like to think it comes to you when you need it the most and sometimes when you least expect it but I think it is harder to search for it however it takes awhile for it to find you as well. It is a matter of opinion. read Proverbs 18;22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing,  a proper helpmeet, a virtuous woman, as in Proverbs 31:10; whoso seeks after such an one, and finds one, especially one that has the grace of God, which he should seek after among his friends, and by their assistance, and by prayer to God:
I pray this helps,feel free to follow up,if I have helped feel free to rate me,thanks and God bless u,peace be unto and upon u forevermore

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