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I am a college student living with 4 other friends in a house. One of them (she) recently started inviting a guy over frequently to hang out (more than just friends but not bf-gf). It annoys me slightly to see them together (annoy might not be the right word here but its the best description I can think of). She sees me as being a "brother" and I see her as a friend so it frustrates me that I can't figure out what and why I'm feeling this was. I like the guy as a friend so it's not him being him that is bothersome. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

annoys me slightly to see them together [bad case of jealousy.u need to find u someone to spend time with like she has;too much jealousy can be destructive, especially when it is irrational. If your jealousy is so strong that you are uncomfortable with your roomate having male friends, then you need to deal with your problem before it ruins your relationship.Get to the root of your jealousy. Analyze what is causing you to feel jealousy. Remind yourself that it is okay for your friend to have friends of the opposite gender and figure out why exactly it is bothering you so much. Identify the trigger, . In some cases, the cause could just be insecurity on your part. The better you understand your jealousy, the better you will be able to deal with it.
Improve yourself. If you are jealous of other people, it is often a major indication that you are unhappy with yourself. Take your jealousy as an opportunity to work on improving who you are so that you feel more secure in the future. Join a gym and work on toning your body and getting healthier. Get a new haircut and buy some new clothing. Start an exciting new hobby, whether it is swimming or hiking. The better you feel in your own skin, the less likely you will be bothered about other people.she's just ur friend,roommate,don't be selfish cause she is entitled to other friends.selfishness/jealousy affects friendships.. Most people continually struggle with the balance between protecting your own interests, and giving generously of your spirit. Sometimes it's an easy choice.As selfishness and complaint pervert the mind, so love with its joy clears and sharpens the vision."
You can still support a friend even when you don't agree with them. Just because you view life a certain way, it doesn't mean you should expect your friends to feel the same way. Having a variety of friends will help you connect with people who are different from you, which helps you grow as a person.  

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