AboutPaul E Expertise All questions on relationships both family and otherwise.
Experience Past/Present clients:
Many and various, never on a professional basis, as I consider the experience I have (along with my age) has given me wisdom and should be freely available.
"Freely receive, freely give"
I am married with two grown-up stepsons, one of which has his own family with four sons. I have been on counseling courses and have varied experience in the workings of the human psyche, been involved on different levels in supporting and helping others with problems, I can often operate on an empathic level.
Organizations I belong to: I attend a local church which has proved invaluable in continuing my experience in relationships.
Expert: Paul E Date: 6/11/2006 Subject: letting down friends
Question Hey,
My name is Chris and I am at a life changing point. I just graduated from university and have moved home for the summer. my plan has been for the past 2 years to move back to school and start my life there. But for about 8 months now I have been dating someone I really love from home, which is about three hours away. I would love to start my adult life at home now, but I dont know how to tell my friends that I was supposed to move in with that I am not moving. How do I tell them without them hating me or being dissapointed in me? Im very concerned that I am going to loose them. But at the same time the person I am dating doesnt want to see me until I tell them I am not moving anymore. What do I say to them?
Thank You,
Chris
Answer Hey Chris, looks like she's got you over a barrel, so ya gotta give up everything before she accepts you in her life, ok, I got one question for ya:
whose dating who!
Isn't dating supposed be like: 50/50, she gives a little, you give a little.
Huh, I could be wrong, because if she's calling all the shots now, what's it gonna be like when u really get together, oh boy!.
Wouldnt wanna be in your shoes buddy, that for sure.
Just a thought, but, why cant you guys work out some kinda compromise.
Go on as you mean to, and you wont go far wrong, after all its your LIFE, aint it?
