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About Arthur Goldstein, M.D.
Expertise
Any problems or questions related to the field of urology; ie urinary stone disease, urinary cancers (kidney, bladder, prostate, testis, etc.), urinary infections, impotency, etc.
Experience
I am retired from the active practice of urology. My 34 years was totally in the clinical field and involved the entire gamut of genitourinary problems, with special interest in male impotence and endourology.
Organizations
American Medical Association, American Urological Association, American College of Surgeons
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You are here: Experts > Health/Fitness > Urology > Urology > erection question
Expert: Arthur Goldstein, M.D.
Date: 9/28/2008
Subject: erection question
Question
Good day Doctor. I have a question about erection. I didn't have sex for a long period of time, like 2 years. Now I noticed that when i have oral sex with my gf i have good erection, but when she changes the way of stimulation for example from direct stimulation to a kissing erection can get little softer and when she returns to direct stimulation it immediately becomes strong again. Looks like waves of excitement. Another words if the penis likes the way of stimulation it stays hard if does not it reacts with the changes of erection. Is this normal? For example if I masturbate i usually know what i like and it never does it when with me. When with her i get the feeling that the stimulation is not enough or does not induce the pleasure feeling then it react if she finds the way of stimulation penis likes than it ok all time. Is this a disease or smth? Or it is normal behavior?
THank you very much for you time.
Alex
p.s. i do have erections in the mornings. Sometimes i wake up and it is very strong, sometimes i think it is not that strong as yesterday. But i m not sure because i still sleepy at that time. Only today i don't remember the erection, but i had alcohol that night and woke up in the different mood than usual.
Answer
Alex, what you describe is perfectly normal. All men and women have various types of sexual stimulation that are much more exciting than other types. As this applies to women as well, it sounds like you and your girl friend need to have a "lover's discussion" about what turns each of you on more. Done properly, this can be very healthy and rewarding for your relationship. However, be diplomatic and certainly do not tell her what she is doing is less stimulating than required! You might start by asking her what you can do to enhance her pleasures and then have the conversation morph into what she can do for you. By the way, alcohol is a central nervous system depressant and usually lessens the sexual response. The best sex is without alcohol in your system. Good luck.
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