QUESTION: what are the differences in male libido and female libido?

and in males, what is normal in terms of how often libido manifests itself? obviously it should or could not be high or low all the time so how often should it fluctuate? is there any standard answer or is it highly variable among people?

also i noticed another person has complained about their question going missing and unanswered. This also happened to my previous question.


There are obvious differences and similarities.  Both sexes enjoy sexual activity and there is no need to be at any particular time of the reproductive cycle.  Libido is modified by testosterone in both sexes but obviously to a greater degree in men.  Other differences are cultural as well as physical and are too involved to be answered simply here.

There are also large amounts of variability based on age, experience, medications and health to name just a few so there is a large degree of variability.

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QUESTION: so if youre a young male in your late 20s and you have a variable libido which is lets call it sporadic and mostly low but sometimes peaks, what could explain this? Is this the usual pattern? can it really be high for most of the time or could that just be based on exaggerated reports by men who are bragging?


A high degree of individual variability not due to any external means such as medications, injuries, traumas, etc. is most likely situation, emotional or psychological.  The pattern you've described would not be considered typical for a normal male in your age group.


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Full time practicing urologist with 30 years experience. Associate Professor of Surgery and Chief of Urology at Creighton University Medical Center. Editor in Chief of eMedicine Urology internet textbook. Author of only NIH approved book written for patients by a urologist on the subject of kidney stones "The Kidney Stones Handbook". Inventor of the "Parachute" and "Escape" kidney stone baskets and the "Calculus" stone prevention analysis computer program.

American Urological Association, Ohio State Medical Association, Sexual Medicine Society

Men's Health, Journal of Urology, Urology, Healthwatch Magazine, Emergency Medicine Monthly, eMedicine, "The Kidney Stones Handbook", and numerous articles in various newspapers. He is also the editor of the Urology Board Review by McGraw-Hill used by urologists to study for their Board Certification Examinations.

Graduate of New York Medical College with residencies completed at Metropolitan Hospital New York, Albany Medical Center and University of Wisconsin-Madison.

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Thirlby Award of the American Urological Association. Rated as one the country's Best Urologists by the Independent Consumer's Research Institute

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