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hi hope you can help me basically im 28 years old and having some sexual problems i suffer with erectile dysfunction although im not entirely sure if thats the problem i tend too take breaks during relationships i only seem too get with lasses for purpose of relationships as you can probably tell thats not bin many however my last relationship ended disastrous but during the time together we had sex 1 time in our 6 month relationship now we did other stuff as well but no matter what she did i couldn't get an erection whatsoever i was enjoying myself but there was no erection even when we had sex i couldn't get an erection could still climax but no erection however on my own i can get an erection think i'm having an obsession with porn
little did i know that

now in front of lasses i cant be turned on i have no clue why
part from the exposure too the porn thats all i can think of is the problem at this point its even made me question my sexuality as im not interested in sex as from fear of size n failure im also wondering might i be gay but i have bin attracted to women for as long as i can remember  i do suffer with diabetes had my t levels have bin checked but they came back fine and i also suffer with depression and psychosis i hope you can help me i have no clue what too do from here thank you
also very concerned bout my penis size yet i have bin too about 2 handfuls of doctors and they are telling me everything is fine i'm just so frustrated



Your problem sounds more emotional and psychological than physical.  You can start by talking to your primary care physician or consulting with a certified sex therapist. Don't worry about penis size.  Most women actually prefer an "average" to a "large" penis.  Low Testosterone is not your problem as it has already been checked.

If necessary, something like Viagra can help.


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Stephen W. Leslie, MD


Questions concerning erectile dysfunction, kidney stones and prostate disorders including prostate cancer. I have a special interest in kidney stone disease prevention.


Full time practicing urologist with 30 years experience. Associate Professor of Surgery and Chief of Urology at Creighton University Medical Center. Editor in Chief of eMedicine Urology internet textbook. Author of only NIH approved book written for patients by a urologist on the subject of kidney stones "The Kidney Stones Handbook". Inventor of the "Parachute" and "Escape" kidney stone baskets and the "Calculus" stone prevention analysis computer program.

American Urological Association, Ohio State Medical Association, Sexual Medicine Society

Men's Health, Journal of Urology, Urology, Healthwatch Magazine, Emergency Medicine Monthly, eMedicine, "The Kidney Stones Handbook", and numerous articles in various newspapers. He is also the editor of the Urology Board Review by McGraw-Hill used by urologists to study for their Board Certification Examinations.

Graduate of New York Medical College with residencies completed at Metropolitan Hospital New York, Albany Medical Center and University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Awards and Honors
Thirlby Award of the American Urological Association. Rated as one the country's Best Urologists by the Independent Consumer's Research Institute

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