AboutStephen W. Leslie, MD Expertise Questions concerning erectile dysfunction, kidney stones and prostate disorders including prostate cancer. I have a special interest in kidney stone disease prevention.
Experience Full time practicing urologist with 20 years experience. Assistant Clinical Professor of Urology at the Medical College of Ohio. Editor in Chief of eMedicine Urology internet textbook. Author of only book written for patients by a urologist on the subject of kidney stones "The Kidney Stones Handbook". Inventor of the "Parachute" and "Escape" kidney stone baskets and the "Calculus" stone prevention analysis computer program.
Organizations American Urological Association, Ohio State Medical Association, Sexual Medicine Society
Publications Men's Health, Journal of Urology, Urology, Healthwatch Magazine, Emergency Medicine Monthly, eMedicine, "The Kidney Stones Handbook", and numerous articles in various newspapers. He is also the editor of the Urology Board Review by McGraw-Hill used by urologists to study for their Board Certification Examinations.
Education/Credentials Graduate of New York Medical College with residencies completed at Metropolitan Hospital New York, Albany Medical Center and University of Wisconsin-Madison
Awards and Honors Thirlby Award of the American Urological Association.
Question I'm 27 year old female. I'm in a sexual relationship with a male right now. He is only my 2nd sexual partner. My problem is that he seems to be producing a HUGE amount of precum. Really it is a copious amount. It is very luby and clear, it feels much the same as KY Jelly, only more natural. When we started to fool around it comes out so much that I actually thought he was ejaculatiing the first time. If I give him oral sex I can feel it and see it erupting very slowly and not as forceful as actual ejaculation. It does not bother me greatly, I'm just wondering if there is something wrong such as a medical condition. It does in fact aid me in my lubrication and actually makes the intercourse part better for me. oh, he also produces so much I can stimulate him with my hands and don't even have to use any lube. He is circumsiced and I can stimulate him just as if I had applied a large amount of KY. He is almost 39. He is only on blood pressure medicaton. His orgasm and regular ejaculation seems normal. Also, his penis seems to not have any "free skin" to aid him in masturbation. It almost seems like his penis skin is too tight.
Also, I'm more attracted to him than I was with my first partner, but I can't seem to have an orgasm from him thru sex alone. I had it often.. almost always from my first person.
His penis seems quite small... Around 4.5 inches erect where my other partner was rather large and girthy around 7inches. I found this to be so strange because my current partner is almost 7 feet tall and my last partner is a much smaller guy in build and frame only around 6ft.
Also, he has been asking me about the posibility of anal sex. I've never done that before. Does it pose any risk to me? Or for him? There is over a ten year difference in us and he is much more experienced. I did it once with my first parnter and it hurt very bad. I'm thinking that with his much smaller size and extra lube it may be stimulating and fun.
Sorry so many questions,
Looking forward to a response
Answer The amount of pre-cum is variable from one individual to another and is not a concern either way. It is unlikely the penile skin is "too tight". Your lack of orgasm is probably secondary to an emotional issue which you will need to address with the appropriate professional such as your family doctor.
Penis size obviously varies and is not necessarily related to height as you've noticed.
We do not recommend anal sex as it may injure the female anal sphincter and it often causes irritation and infections of the male urethra. If you want to try it anyway, go ahead as many people find it satisfying.
