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Eitan wrote at 2015-02-16 21:26:51
your husbands is sending you here with a confusing msg;

1. he does not get enough sex, like once a week.

2. he is not turned on (hard) when you want to have sex.

he explains his non-performance-2, because of 1.

this does not make sense:

not getting enough sex does not naturally stop you from wanting it; the opposite would make more sense, one would be more eager.

so; what do we do?

if we were to 'judge' by actions, and not the 'plea'; then when you want to have sex, and he does not perform, it means that he does not want too  have sex. I am sorry to say, he lost his desire, in this relationship, and he is not in control of what is going on.

It happens in any relationship;

nobody's fault, i just want to stress that.  


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Stephen W. Leslie, MD


Questions concerning erectile dysfunction, kidney stones and prostate disorders including prostate cancer. I have a special interest in kidney stone disease prevention.


Full time practicing urologist with 30 years experience. Associate Professor of Surgery and Chief of Urology at Creighton University Medical Center. Editor in Chief of eMedicine Urology internet textbook. Author of only NIH approved book written for patients by a urologist on the subject of kidney stones "The Kidney Stones Handbook". Inventor of the "Parachute" and "Escape" kidney stone baskets and the "Calculus" stone prevention analysis computer program.

American Urological Association, Ohio State Medical Association, Sexual Medicine Society

Men's Health, Journal of Urology, Urology, Healthwatch Magazine, Emergency Medicine Monthly, eMedicine, "The Kidney Stones Handbook", and numerous articles in various newspapers. He is also the editor of the Urology Board Review by McGraw-Hill used by urologists to study for their Board Certification Examinations.

Graduate of New York Medical College with residencies completed at Metropolitan Hospital New York, Albany Medical Center and University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Awards and Honors
Thirlby Award of the American Urological Association. Rated as one the country's Best Urologists by the Independent Consumer's Research Institute

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