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ok i am an 18 year old caucasion. my girl came down from out of town, i dont get to see her often so when she comes it more or less is just a F*&k fest. well the first day we had about 8 hours of sex 1st time was about 2 hours, second time 3, and third time 3, all un protect, and i only climaxed the first two times. the reason we stopped is because her vagina became less lubricated and started gettin raw. throughout the night we had sex several more times waking each other up for 30 or so minutes at a time. this continued for 2 more days. the head of my penis got raw and we could no longer have sex because it now hurt both of us. we still preformed oral on each other. the next day my foreskin swole up, i had to slowly retract it and it dd hurt but i was able to do it. we cleaned it with peroxide and 1 time alcohol but the burn was too much for the alcohol. the swelling continued for 1 more day with same effects. i then woke up the next day and the swelling was down but the foreskin will not retract at all. i figured it would go away that was friday, it is now late monday and i am scared something is really wrong. i had dry skin around the tip of the outter foreskin so i apply lotion frequently and it wont retract even with lubricant.

Hello Jared,
Stop using peroxide or alcohol, both of which are worsening the situation. It sounds like you have balanitis, and inflammation of the foreskin and glans (head) of the penis, possibly caused by a skin fungus. Both you and your partner may have it. Inability to retract the foreskin is a condition known as phimosis, and it is probably caused by the swelling of the skin that prevents it from stretching the way it was designed.

Thus, you need to eradicate the cause, using an effective antifungal cream (such as terbinefine/Lamisil, miconazole/Micatin), which are over the counter products in the athlete's foot section of the drugstore. To reduce the swelling, avoid any contact irritants, like hand lotions, etc. You may need a steroid, but this must be done under the direction of a doctor, as steroids usually cause fungi get worse!  You may need a decent antihistamine to reduce the itchiness, and release of histamine in the skin, which may also be contributing to the swelling.  Such antihistamines may be diphenhydramine/Benadryl, or hydroxazine/Atarax or Vistaril, but these may make you sleepy.

This ignores other medical problems like diabetes that you or your partner may have. Some STDs, such as herpes may also precipitate such an event!

Good luck!

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Mark P. Behar


Almost any question or concern about gay men's health issues, sexually transmitted infections, abnormal Pap smears, anal cytology (anal "Pap smears"), etc. There is no such thing as “d/d free” or “clean” (free of infection), so why do so many of us deceive ourselves into thinking that some people are indeed totally free from a potentially infectious disease, like HIV, herpes, hepatitis, syphilis, chlamydia, warts, gonorrhea, etc., just because they say so? Clinical laboratory tests are not perfect, and having a “negative” or “nonreactive” test does not mean that a person is free from infection. Perhaps at the moment the test was taken, the person was uninfected; or, perhaps, the test wasn’t sensitive enough to detect presence of the infection. There is really no way that anyone can determine that they are truly “disease free,” and there are over a hundred of infectious conditions that can be spread without your knowing anything. Rather than trying to “pre-screen” or “serosort” a potential sex-mate with deceptive questions that are impossible to know by today’s technologies, a wiser option may be to consider everyone infected with something, and either use appropriate protective measures (“safer sex”), or accept the responsibility and consequences of possibly “catching” something from someone who’s hotter than expected (pun intended!). There is much research that supports the contention that an HIV positive person reliably taking HIV medications, and having an undetectable viral load, presents a lower risk for transmission of HIV than people who may think or say they are HIV negative, but are not. Food for thought!


Family Practice PA since 1981; Volunteer Clinician for Brady East STD (BESTD) Clinic, Milwaukee, since 1977; answered STD questions submitted to their web site. Professionally lectured at national and regional Physician Assistant and Nurse Practitioner conferences, and at national gay & lesbian health conferences on topics including HIV/AIDS, herpes, hepatitis, STDs, human papilloma virus (the cause of venereal warts), abnormal Pap smears, gay and lesbian health issues, among others.

Co-Founder, Lesbian, Bisexual, & Gay Physician Assistant Caucus of the American Academy of Physician Assistants, Inc.; American Academy of Physician Assistants; Wisconsin Academy of Physician Assistants; National Co-Chair (2012-16), National Association of Black and White Men Together: A Gay, Multiracial Organization for All People (NABWMT)

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Bachelor's of Arts, 1972 (University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee, WI) Graduate Credits Experimental Psychology, 1972-75 (Tulane University, New Orleans, LA) Physician Assistant, Bachelor's of Science, 1981 (George Washington University, Washington, DC); Masters in Physician Assistant Studies, 2000 (University of Nebraska Medical Center, Omaha, NE)

Awards and Honors
Colposcopy Recognition Award (CRA), the American Association of Colposcopy and Cervical Pathology; Distinguished Fellow, Clinical Preceptor, American Academy of Physician Assistants; Fellow, Wisconsin Academy of Physician Assistants

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Brady East STD Clinic, Milwaukee, WI Milwaukee Health Services, Inc. (Martin Luther King Heritage Health Center), Dept. of Family Medicine and Early Intervention Program for HIV Infected Persons

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