Sexually Transmitted Diseases/Should I worry?


I recently had same sex anal intercourse with a stranger I met online. Not sure it matters but he was a professional type, married and in his 50's. I was the bottom/receiver. We used a latex condom and water based lube. After he left I inspected the condom and filled with water, no leaks. Gross I know but am paranoid. This was a first for me some I'm really freaking out! What is my risk of contracting HIV?

Hi JC,

I'm happy for you that used protection, the correct way, with lubrication and it seems like you didn't have any problems. With that said the protection rate of condoms, when used correctly is 98% in protecting against known STI's. So even in the unlikely chance that your partner did have the HIV virus and wasn't aware of it, your odds would be strongly in favor of not coming into contact with it at all.

Best wishes,


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Educated and certified in STI information, HIV and AIDS, and trained in comprehensive sex education for teens and young adults. Providing counseling in sexuality, sexual interests, and sexual orientations, pregnancy prevention, safer sex initiatives, and teaching health education seminars to adults ages 18-65 for the past 3 years. Serve underserved clients in homeless shelters, workplace readiness programs, and detention centers. Three term AmeriCorps domestic service volunteer and Peace Corps nominee for Health Service to Lesotho and Rwanda. Providing services to the GLBTQIA populations of which I am a member.


3 years as a volunteer Emergency Medical Technician (Advanced) for 3 years and comprehensive sex educator for 3 years and parenting educator for 3 years. *North Carolina State Certified Emergency Medical Technician, #P083512 *Certified Health Education Specialist, #22589

*American Public Health Association *National Commission on Health Education Credentialing

American Public Health Association, Student Assembly, Quarterly Newsletter 2012-2014

*Doctor of Education (candidate), K-12 Teacher Leadership; Capella University *Master of Public Health, Social and Behavioral Sciences; Capella University *Master of Education, Curriculum and Instruction; Concordia University-Portland *Bachelor of Arts, Psychology and English; East Carolina University

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Graduated with Distinction from Capella University AllExperts, Top Experts of 2014 (One and Multiple Categories)

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*Over 180 clients, lasting 30 sessions, in 5 locations during Florida service. *Over 150 clients, lasting 18 sessions, in 2 locations during South Carolina service.

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