About Kimberly Expertise I can answer questions about the transmission and risks of most STD`s out there. If I were asked something that I was not sure of, I have numerous references to utilize with accurate and updated information. I can answer questions related to the behavior of symptons and associated emotional distress of STDS. I can also refer interested individuals to numerous help outfits.
Experience I have been interested in infectious diseases for many years now. My research has been conducted both in and out of educational institutions. I have been in direct contact with many laboratories on investigational studies and vaccines. I have also been in direct contact with educational professionals that supply for these areas.
Question About 2 years ago my X husband accused me of giving him the herpes virus. He showed me some sores on his lower thigh area. I have examed myself, I have no symptons what so ever and I went to the gyn, he did not find any outbreaks neither. It has been 2 years and nothing. I have used protection with my boyfriend. Should I tell my boyfriend what my x husband told me? Does the herpes virus remain dorment? Please help. Thank you.
Answer Madeline,
Unfortunately, you need to get a bloodtest done. Your x husband could be very wrong about you giving it to him...but he could be right as well..or he could have given it to you. You will need to get an accurate bloodtest to know for sure. 25% of the population has genital herpes and about 90% of that group...do NOT know that they have it...because, they do not have symptoms or the virus has lain dormant.
You could feasibly have herpes and not have an outbreak for years...there is a dormancy factor that needs to be considered. I have seen individuals that have had no outbreaks for 4 years and then all of a sudden...BOOM.
Now, as for your new boyfriend, he would really only catch it if you were asymptomatically shedding, since you are saying that you do not have symptoms...this is infrequent but possible. If you have been using condoms his risks are low. Remember that it is transmitted with skin to skin contact even when there are no symptoms...but usually only to a mucous membrane...which on him would be the TIP of his penis...so if you had that condom coverage he should be ok...
About telling him, I would go to the doctor and get the bloodtest done. Ethically it is always a good thing to tell the new guy anything that COULD be a risk from the past. It is a courtesy. In the meanwhile, you could be waiting for results to close the loop. YOu will need to get an accurate test ran. They have the Western Blot for Herpes...that can show you if you have type 1 or 2 since we are now seeing more type 1 in the genitals. You can go have an on the spot test called the POCkit done. You get the results back in 10 min. They are a bit expensive and they only test for type 2...typical to the genitals. There are others out there. There is also a hotline for herpes at 1-919-361-8488 and a 24 hr STD line at 1800-227-8922. GREAT resources. And, Of course I will help you with ANYTHING that I can.
Your ex could be just blaming you for something to make him feel better, you might not have anything at all...especially since you haven't had symptoms...however there is a chance...and a bloodtest will tell you for SURE. Find out...
I wish you the best, please let me knowif I can help you more.
Kimberly
