AboutJacky Tustain Expertise If you are feeling lost in some aspect of your current life I can help you work out what you want or need and then give advice as to the next steps you will need to take to get there.
Experience I am a practising Life Coach in the UK and specialise in helping people rediscover themselves and what they are looking for in their lives.
Publications I regularly write articles for various websites including SelfGrowth.com and Naturalmatters.net
I am lost and I dont know what to do. I wish you could shed some light for me.
I'm 28 years old and a degree holder in business studies. Currently working in the customer service dept for almost 3 years. Although the company that currently i'm working for is good, i dont like my role in customer service. i want a change. i know that if i continue working in my dept, the chances of getting a promotion and salary increase are there.
however, i feel that i dont learn much in my current position. apart from improving my communication skills, writing skills..there's nothing much. i'm afraid if i decide to resign later, i dont know what job that i can choose apart from customer service. and, of course, i might not get high salary if i decide to venture into another field other than customer service. i want to have a skill, just like those people in Human Resource, computer programming, accounting because i know they will surely get a job easily with higher pay if they decide to look for a new job. but, customer service? i dont think so...
anyway, fast forward...i always like to do event management, i.e. managing and coordinating the logistics of an event, get to travel to different countries for the events. although i've never worked in this industry, i really want to give it a try. God must be very kind to me and answered my prayers..cos today an event management company wanted to hire me as event coordinator for their conferences, seminars and workshops. I'm going to work with the event manager and manage & coordinate the conferences and workshop. It'll be almost 80% administrative work and I get to travel to different countries to coordinate the events. Plus, I'm also getting an increment of 30% from my current salary.
I am very happy that the company wanted to hire me. I mean, I should be happy, right?
But right now, I'm confused, worried and scared. I'm desparately looking for job now because i want a change. I want a change in career before its too late. but why am i so worried at the same time? is it bcos i've been working in this dept for 3 years, i know almost everything, i'm a senior executive/team leader in my dept. I'm familiar with the company, the people. I'm almost in my comfort zone. I'm afraid to change. what if i cant handle the new job? what if my new boss puts high expectation on me but i cant perform? what if i cant maintain in my new job for long? a lot of my colleagues have resigned because they know they wont have much future advancement in my dept. but..as much as i want to resign and do something that i like..did i make a wise decision? i have not tendered my resignation letter yet, bcos i'm uncertain. i keep telling myself not to simply accept a new job just bcos i want to get out of my company. i have a feeling that this new job is going to be good. but...
i just dont know wats wrong with me. my close friend said this is a good opportunity. with higher salary and a new challenge..something that i have the ability to do..they trust that i can do it..but why i have this weird feeling? this 'scared, afraid' feeling..
pls help!
Answer Hi Jess,
Well, the answer to your question is easy and you already have an idea about what the problem is.
Yes, you are in a bit of a 'comfort zone'. The feelings you are having are just a little nervousness about the unknown as is perfectly normal before a change.
You have realised that you have been given an opportunity but self doubts are making you think twice. Well, you'll never know if you don't give it a go.
Here are some different questions for you to ask yourself:
1. What if your new job turns out to be so easy you get bored?
2. What if your new boss doesn't give you enough work to stretch yourself?
3. What if this new job turns out to be your dream job?
When we are frightened by change we feel threatened and look for ways to protect ourselves and hide away. Try to stop thinking of this as a potential failure but instead think of it as an exciting adventure and a chance to succeed.
Why shouldn't you be great in your new job? Yes, you may have stuff to learn but that is to be expected and a good employer will also understand this. As long as you show willing, work hard and do your best you should be fine.
Your resume and interview convinced the new company to hire you - they believe you can do it!
So, take a deep breath, dive in and go get 'em girl!
