AboutKerry D Sim Expertise I help people become clear about what they say they want, and hopefully clear about why they are not getting it. I do not answer questions like "How do I make a million dollars?" or "Where do I find my soul-mate?" or "What is the perfect job or career for me?" I also don't do "romance" question, like "What shall I do if my boyfriend/girlfriend confuses me? I don't understand my lover, what shall I do? I will answer questions from people who find themselves unclear, or confused about their purpose in life. I also help folks with limiting frameworks, beliefs, and emotional blocks that keep them stuck doing the same things over and over, while expecting different results.
Experience Have been a personal development coach for 7 years. Trained in Energy Techniques, including Provocative Energy Technique. Considerable, and varied personal life experience, and have created a very practical relationship workshop, complete with effective communication tools. I specialize in hearing and speaking the truth, and it is unimportant in the process whether you like the truth as it exists, or not.
Education/Credentials Coach training from Coachville.com school of coaching. Energy techniques training via Emofree.com and EFT Downunder. Life experience and training from many full years of living on this planet. I also have a certain amount of formal education, which, as far as I am concerned, is not necessarily pertinent to this endeavor.
I'm 25 year old and working as a web designer, in my part time I do some side work like running a few of my own affiliate websites.
I know how to do a lot of things, design, program and market websites but for some reasons I feel like I am not working towards anything. I feel like I always have to have something to work on or else I feel worthless. My question is, how do I focus on my projects while balancing a relationship and friendships? Also, why do you think I might feel as if I always need something to work on?
I tend to be shy sometimes but am still a very confident person, and most people I meet tend to like me and tell me I seem genuine. I want to attract successful people/relationships and make sure I am giving off a good energy, which I feel I am, so why is it that I have not yet reached my goals?
I'm not a very social person around large groups, I guess I'm scared of people judging me, but one on one I do just fine. Not sure how to change that because I do have opinions but feel like somethings holding me back from speaking up.
Also, success to me isn't just money, even though money is nice. I want to be recognized and want people to be attracted to me as a person, not because of the things I have. In a relationship, I want other to be jealous of mine, simple as that.
Thank you!!
Marko
Answer Hey Marko,
My questions for you - usually me asking questions gets you closer to an answer to yours... :-) is related to your question "... why have I not yet reached my goals?"
What exactly are your goals (and I do mean exactly!)? Do you have specific goals, or generalized ones? Are your goals actually YOURS or are they expectations carried over from your family? Perhaps you have goals that are actually "shoulds"; as in, "I have spent all this time/money/energy on my education, job training, experience etc. and I "should" be/doing...______... by now. (fill in the blank)
By the way, the below statement is, at least to me, a big clue about you, and might I say, I think it a rather dangerous framework to have...
" In a relationship, I want other to be jealous of mine, simple as that."
It suggests to me a need to be needed. A need that may cause you to enter into less than fulfilling relationships, simply to get some recognition and acceptance. And since you also how you feel worthless unless you are working on something, this reinforces my thought. How accurate does it all sound you?
If you truly want that "jealous" aspect, I'd say you are running the risk of either attracting very needy partners and/or driving away those who actually want a healthy, integrity based relationship. Just my .02
So, bottom line, you would be served by clarifying and getting specific about a bunch of things such as goals, frameworks, relationship requirements, etc. Spend some time defining with clarity and details what a fulfilling life would look and feel like for you.
It may not surprise you, but this is exactly the kind of coaching I tend to do, (and IMHO rather successfully) so if you want to work with someone practiced in these areas, send me reply with your email addy and I'll get back to you.
In the meantime, since you say you feel that you are giving off good energy, keep it up; put some of that energy into yourself, try asking these kinds of questions and answering them honestly. Show yourself as much clean energy as you show others.
