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How to Get What You Want in Life/Questions Answered by Expert Kerry D Sim
| Subject | Date Asked |
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: Truthfully, I do think getting pissed on is weird. But that's just my opinion and it ain't a factor ... | |
| Husband Wants to Retire | 9/23/2011 |
| Q: My husband just turned 55 and says he's going to retire at the end of this year. He simply doesn't ... A: My short answer to this kind of question is always: "Tell the truth." If you communicate calmly and ... | |
| major and job | 5/3/2011 |
| Q: I go to a community college right now and have just chosen the major of Psychology. I am planning to ... A: Josh, hate to break it to you but in the very first paragraph of my profile I state that I do not do ... | |
| best wax | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: I recall seeing you use aircraft wax to get the best protection on surfaces - even a car. Would you ... A: Actually you may have seen me using auto wax on an airplane, I don't recall using aircraft wax. I ... | |
| Marriage Bla Bla | 10/17/2010 |
| Q: Some pretty tough expert instructions there, well I don't know if my question fits here, but I will ... A: I notice, from this latest response of yours, you don't actually "hate marriage", but you do hate ... | |
| Marriage Bla Bla | 10/15/2010 |
| Q: Some pretty tough expert instructions there, well I don't know if my question fits here, but I will ... A: Dina, Question 1: How would I be able to go through life and make people understand once and for all ... | |
| Need that extra push in life | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: I am 35 year old man with a BS in education. I am looking for a full time career. At this point I ... A: John, it sounds to me that you are ripe for some outside help. My suggestion is to connect with a ... | |
| Drifting | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: I feel as though I'm drifting through my life. I avoid making decisions, and when I'm at a place ... A: Adam, short, sweet, simple answer: The only constant is change. If you won't pursue possible ... | |
| dead end road | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: Recently turned 40 and I feel stuck in a dead end road. Can't seem to find a way out. I'm healthy, ... A: Go to a self-development seminar or workshop. Consult a spiritual mentor of your choice. Hire a ... | |
| My Independence | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: my name is Mike. I'm 23 years old who is a graduate from Johnson & Wales University with a Fashion ... A: I'm not offended a bit, and I appreciate honesty. And I believe I answered your question "How can ... | |
| My Independence | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: my name is Mike. I'm 23 years old who is a graduate from Johnson & Wales University with a Fashion ... A: Mike, You can gain your independence again by making a simple choice. Choose between what you have ... | |
| purpose | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm extremely confused and down about career, life, purpose, etc. I'm so totally lost I don't know ... A: Bob, There are three separate questions here, and they are all rather more complex than can be ... | |
| motivation | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: I saw your website and was very intrigued. My question. I had a great spate of motivation a few ... A: Peter, My short answer to your question is "I don't know how you get your motivation back." Truly, ... | |
| Communicate with wife | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: Any advice you can give me about how to get my wife to stop controlling our finances and make me a ... A: You know, I've been asked many times by clients how to get somebody else to stop (or start) doing ... | |
| Self Sabotage | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: been out a few times, we've been getting on like a house on fire, it looks like it going to ... A: Well Ian, I have some thoughts, but truthfully this forum is not really suited to a quick effective ... | |
| About being respectful | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: Ms. Sim, I am a 25 year old law student. I am concerned that I might have a respect issue. I have ... A: Jen, I'm curious that your subject line was :"About being respectful" I could be mistaken, but I ... | |
| Will he want a divorce? | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: My husband asked Do I want to be with him for the rest of our lives.This was my answer.- Do I want ... A: "Well if you were him,what would you do?" If I were him, the relationship would not be in doubt. If ... | |
| Will he want a divorce? | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: My husband asked Do I want to be with him for the rest of our lives.This was my answer.- Do I want ... A: So now I'm hearing that you are reluctant to tell him what you are actually thinking because you ... | |
| Will he want a divorce? | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: My husband asked Do I want to be with him for the rest of our lives.This was my answer.- Do I want ... A: Corrina, I hope you got some value from writing this rather long and involved posting to me. I hope ... | |
| Undecided | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old and I've been undecided about my career since I was a senior. I graduated last ... A: Natalie, It seems to me that you are at a point in your life where you are facing a simple choice. ... | |
| confused | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: I am 29 years old. I joined a government organization in 1997 when I was 18 years old. After 6 ... A: I may not have made it clear in my previous email, but my job is one of Life Coach. Although I ... | |
| confused | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: I am 29 years old. I joined a government organization in 1997 when I was 18 years old. After 6 ... A: Strange as it may sound, the process of self-actualization most often requires assistance from the ... | |
| my husband | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: this subject should have came up b4 marriage but lucky for him it didn't. I sold my house and ... A: Well, I don't know how to answer the question "AM I WRONG ON THIS?" because I don't have any way of ... | |
| School and Parents | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: I am trying to convince my parents that my current major isn't what I want to do for the rest of my ... A: My first thought is "why do you need your parents on board?" Are they paying for your education? If ... | |
| indecisive! | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: Can I seek your advise? I'm currently working in an events management company since July 2008 as an ... A: Jess, I see absolutely nothing wrong with discussing any job or new position with anyone. People do ... | |
| q | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I came to the United States when I was 17 years old with my family from overseas. Now I am 31. Since ... A: Sammy, This is a rather puzzling question to me. I cannot answer with any kind of clarity with ... | |
| lessons? | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: I'm in my early 20's and looking for coach/ personal trainer to help me become more assertive and ... A: Jay, I just happen to be a Life Coach, and I use a technique called Provocative Energy ... | |
| I know I can make my wildest dreams come true, but why aren't they? | 7/18/2008 |
| Q: Hey Kerry, I'm 25 year old and working as a web designer, in my part time I do some side work like ... A: Hey Marko, My questions for you - usually me asking questions gets you closer to an answer to ... | |
| help | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: Please help me im at the worst spot in my life. Me and my girl have be going out for 4 yrs and just ... A: Jerry, first of all let me apologize for the delay in answering. I have been having some computer ... | |
| engagement help | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: How do you know if a girl really loves you? I am engaged about to be married in 9 weeks and my ... A: Michael, I can only say again, you cannot KNOW that someone will stand by you forever. It takes ... | |
| engagement help | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: How do you know if a girl really loves you? I am engaged about to be married in 9 weeks and my ... A: Because I can't see much punctuation, your question is a bit hard to understand. I don't know for ... | |
| ref | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: Good day, Lets say you are just starting out in business and trying to network with high profile men ... A: I don't think that there is a single answer that will cover everyone, including the very rich. ... | |
| Ref: question | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: Good day, I was wondering how does a shy, avoidant, withdrawn 32 year old man who has lost all of ... A: Short answer is to simply change your mind about who you are. Henry Ford once said: "If you think ... | |
| Motivation | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: My name is Patrick, and I'm 20 years old. I feel that I have a very good concept of what I want out ... A: Patrick, This is a forum for simple questions and simple answers. What you are asking seems simple ... | |
| dispersion-scattered | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: I m 23 years graduated from university from one year my problem too complicated , I acquired a ... A: Sounds to me like all you have to do is make a choice about what you want to do with your life. To ... | |
| lost & directionless | 3/21/2008 |
| Q: I am a 26 years old female. For the past few weeks I have been feeling general malaise & sickness ... A: Karen, It is impossible to respond with any kind of answer to what I read from you. All I read is a ... | |
| my boyfriend told me that when he gets married and a house his mother is coming to live with us. | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years we have talked about getting married when ... A: Here are some answers to your questions: Q - How can I make him understand, or see things from my ... | |
| Balance | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and living together for over 1 1/2. He has a 5 ... A: "So what do I do? How do I balance it all? What is more important, and what’s not? If we get ... | |
| Pls advise me | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: I am currently in a dilemma and I hope you can give me an advise or two. Here's my long story.. I'm ... A: Jessica, It says on my listing that I do not do career advice or questions... and I don't. However, ... | |
| In a Fog | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: Kerry: Since childhood I've felt out of place in my life. I know this may sound dumb but I ... A: Shay, Thank you for the kind comments you posted on my allexperts page. I appreciate your thoughts. ... | |
| Life and career | 2/4/2008 |
| Q: I m writing you abt my life so far, at this stage my life is almost hell, i dont know how to get ... A: If you wish to change your state of mind to Happy State, my suggestion is to start thinking about ... | |
| help | 2/3/2008 |
| Q: I am so desperate because: *I worked 25 years as a fire fighter and then got retired. *While working ... A: Ivan I don't see a clear question here. I clearly mentioned in my profile page that I don't do ... | |
| Life and career | 2/1/2008 |
| Q: I m writing you abt my life so far, at this stage my life is almost hell, i dont know how to get ... A: When working with clients who want change, I always recommend changing one's thoughts first. Simple ... | |
| I want to leave my husband - How? | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for almost nine years, throughout this time my husband has been physically & ... A: Tracy, This kind of forum is not the best place to get effective assistance with your problem, ... | |
| Life and career | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: I m writing you abt my life so far, at this stage my life is almost hell, i dont know how to get ... A: kapoor I responded to this very same email earlier today by saying there is no question here. ... | |
| I don't know what I want? and I don't have a lot of options either | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: I have just graduated from college, and I have worked in three different jobs and I hated them. lam ... A: Sorry for taking so long to answer. I just recently joined the site, and to tell the truth I forgot ... | |
| helicopter husband | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I want to put my true feeling in front of you, believing the fact - I'll get some relief. I'm ... A: Sorry for taking so long to answer. I just recently joined the site, and to tell the truth I forgot ... | |
How to Get What You Want in Life
Answers by Expert:
Kerry D Sim
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Expertise
I help people become clear about what they say they want, and hopefully clear about why they are not getting it. I do not answer questions like "How do I make a million dollars?" or "Where do I find my soul-mate?" or "What is the perfect job or career path for me?" I also don't do "romance" question, like "What shall I do if my boyfriend/girlfriend confuses me? I don't understand my lover, what shall I do?" I will answer questions from people who find themselves unclear, or confused about their purpose in life. I also help folks with limiting frameworks, beliefs, and emotional blocks that keep them stuck doing the same things over and over, while expecting different results.
Experience
Have been a personal development coach for 10 years. Trained in Energy Techniques, including Provocative Energy Technique. Considerable, and varied personal life experience, and have created a very practical relationship workshop, complete with effective communication tools. I specialize in hearing and speaking the truth, and it is unimportant in the process whether you like the truth as it exists, or not.
Education/Credentials
Coach training from Coachville.com school of coaching. Energy techniques training via Emofree.com and EFT Downunder. Life experience and training from many full years of living on this planet. I also have a certain amount of formal education, which, as far as I am concerned, is not necessarily pertinent to this endeavor.
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