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I'm invited to my nephew's wedding in Key West, FL.  I live in Syracuse, NY. Airfare & hotel for two is costing me $1700, plus a $200 gift. I was disappointed to find out I'm not invited to the rehearsal dinner. Wouldn't that be appropriate after the time & money I've invested? I'm not a "distant" relative. What's your opinion?

Hi. Congratulations!  Rehearsal dinners are traditionally for the wedding participants and their spouses/significant others.  Many couples are choosing to scale down the rehearsal dinners for a number of reasons; expense is one, of course. Another reason is that for destination weddings, very often the guest list of out of towners is almost as big as the wedding, and a huge event before the wedding steals the thunder of the wedding.

Several of my couples have done formal rehearsal dinners and then invited everyone in town to meet at a club or casual restaurant for drinks and snacks (not hosted; everyone pays for themselves).  It's a way for everyone to get together and relax without the groom's family (or the couple, depending on how they are splitting up the costs) incurring a giant bill.   Almost every wedding, no matter where it is held, is a destination wedding for at least some of the participants

Hope this helps!  Have a wonderful time!


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I can answer questions about wedding etiquette, wedding ceremony ideas, reception ideas, sticky situations....really, anything wedding. I cannot give specific legal advice, but I can connect couples with the correct information about state licensing.


After running a successful, upscale catering business for over 15 years, I went to seminary and then Celebrant USA to train as a wedding officiant and become ordained. I have personally officiated at over 700 weddings, and I now head a group of six other officiants. We have written and performed weddings and civil unions for mixed couples, non religious couples, and everyone in between. I am well versed in ethnic and cultural rituals, as well as creating new rituals for my couples that desire them.

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