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My neighbors are getting remarried - remarried to each other after they were divorced and seperated for a couple years.  Her sister and I are throwing a surprise reception celebration for them.  When it comes to the traditional things that typically occur what is etiquette??  They were married at court house and obviously this will be casual dress and a surprise no wedding party and ceremony before hand.....The reception will have music food and soda and tea coffee bar.  Should we do specifics dances or anything traditional at the reception or what would you suggest???
toast, dance, etc?

Hi!  How tremendous for them, and how lucky they are to have such considerate friends!   I think you let the event evolve organically; toasts, for sure; maybe a dance if they feel so inclined, but I'd plan just the skeleton and see what happens!  If it's truly a surprise, that will catch them off guard (happily!) and having too much going on may feel awkward rather than celebratory. Etiquette, in its purest form, is meant to make everyone feel comfortable, and I think a lovely afternoon party with some spontaneous toasts and maybe a dance (if they'd like) fits the bill perfectly.

You're planning a wonderful gift to them!

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Celia Milton


I can answer questions about wedding etiquette, wedding ceremony ideas, reception ideas, sticky situations....really, anything wedding. I cannot give specific legal advice, but I can connect couples with the correct information about state licensing.


After running a successful, upscale catering business for over 15 years, I went to seminary and then Celebrant USA to train as a wedding officiant and become ordained. I have personally officiated at over 700 weddings, and I now head a group of six other officiants. We have written and performed weddings and civil unions for mixed couples, non religious couples, and everyone in between. I am well versed in ethnic and cultural rituals, as well as creating new rituals for my couples that desire them.

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