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Experience I''ve been a wedding coordinator for 16 years. I authored a WEDDING PLANNING GUIDE, a Bride''s Workbook, that is available in local bridal shops. Tattered Cover Bookstores in Denver, CO as well as local Borders Books and through my website. I''ve worked with weddings from just 2 people to 350 guests and all budget ranges. I've also written and teach The Art of Wedding Coordination to those who want to become wedding coordinators.
Question Planning a wedding is supposed to be exciting, however, I am finding it to be depressing. I am the youngest out of four siblings. One sister and two brothers. They are all married and I am the last. My sister is my Matron of Honor. Every time I try to talk to her about the wedding, she seems not to be listening because she'll talk to some one else when I am talking. She went with me to pick out my wedding dress, but acted tired and didn't want to be there long. I thought this was supposed to bond us as sisters. I understand that she is 10 years older than me, but she begged to my matron of honor. I feel like I am planning alone and it has been upsetting me. I am getting married in 6 months. I just found out that my sister assigned my sister-in-law to handle my bridal showers. Also she would like just one shower with combined families. I can't keep letting her bother me. How do I get her on board? or Should I keep pressing on?
Answer Dear Juliana,
If I were there I'd give you a big, reassuring hug! The thing about weddings is it brings out the best and the worst in people...inclusing family.
Wedding planning is hard and stressful, but should also be fun. What I would recommend is that you find a wedding coordinator to work with. This person can help take a lot of the stress off you, be someone you can talk to and will be there for you. Also, you'll need someone who can take over the day of the wedding so you can enjoy it and I can almost guarantee you that family members and close family friends aren't the ones to ask.
What you might do, is take your sister to a tea or coffee shop, ask her to turn off her phone and be honest with her about how you feel she's really not interested. Ask her if she'd rather be a bridesmaid so she wouldn't need to worry about the duties of the MOH. Ask your sister, point blank, if there's something bothering her or if she'd rather not be a part of the wedding party. Hopefully, she'll open up to you if she has to many other - possibly family things going on that she doesn't feel it's important to put that much energy towards you and your wedding. Or - another thought is she may be jealous.
You need to clear the air, one way or the other.
Hopefully this helps, but do look into hiring a coordinator to assist you. They won't take the place of a family member, but will be someone you can lean on.
Please let me know if I can be of any further assistance. You can always contact me directly as well through my website www.weddingsbytanya.com.
