Expert: Weddings Etc LLC - 2/2/2008

Question
I'm in such a bind. I have my son who is 8 and my two nephews who will be 4,and 2 (one from the groom's side and one from mine), whom id really like to be in the wedding. I've decided to make my son the ring bearer, unless there are other suggestions. I don't know if hes too old...lol.- What role can i have our 2 other boys play in the wedding? I will be having 3 flower girls with the ages 7,3,2 thank you in advance for your time.Help please! i need suggestions!

Answer
Dear Danette,

First, I'd say reconsider the 2 year old.  This is really young and very unpredicitable.  However, if you really want to have them as part of the wedding party, consider giving each a bell and have them walk in before the processional, ringing the bells (which little boys love to do), signaling the start of the ceremony.  Then, have them immediately seated with their parents or other adult.  I'd also advise you arrange for the other children to be seated as soon as they get down the aisle as you are the focal point and kids are very unpredictable.

Also, have your coordinator, or whomever is helping you, be ready to keep the children with them if they balk at going down the aisle. You never want to force a child to walk down the aisle if they are really afraid.

Your son is a perfect age to be a ring bearer.  Hopefully you are incorporating him into the ceremony such as the unity candle or presenting him with a special something to show him he's really a part of this new family being created.

Hope this helps.  Please let me know if I can be of any further assistance.