AboutBrenda Cascio Expertise As founder and CEO of GraciousBridal.com, I am pleased to offer suggestions for those puzzling situations such as wanting to give personal gifts to bridesmaids that have totally different interests, how to show appreciation to guests on a budget, what small things that can be done to make a huge impact for the ceremony and reception.
Experience At the helm of graciousbridal.com, I am up-to-date on the latest trends. Our products have been featured in the finest wedding and style magazines. I am essentially a consultant to consultants. Because many wedding consultants are a small operation, they don't have access to the vendors, markets and other consultants that we have. Therefore, we use our resources to find those elusive items. Having a party and want to re-create the garden at Tavern-On-The-Green? We provided the marbelized balloons. Are you wanting a garden party with lanterns strung through the trees? We have provided the lanterns with coordinating parasols and hand fans. Want to plan a wedding merging two cultures, I can help navigate you through the potentially sticky situations (now is not the time for a social faux-pas!) It is important to be aware of the various customs in different parts of the country too, and I am more than happy to assist brides, moms and consultants in this.
Education/Credentials Degree in Fine Arts and years of experience in design and marketing prior to becoming involved in the wedding industry.
Question My SIL has asked that my 6 year old daughter be the flower girl in her upcoming wedding. However, she has now asked the she not attend the rehearsal dinner or reception as there will be no children allowed. She will allow and 10 and 12 year old jr bridesmaids to attend both. We are spending a considerable amount of money on the FG dress and accessories AND my daughter is SO excited about her "job." Is this within reason for her to ask that the FG not attend either function? My daughter is well behaved and the additional plate charge at the wedding in not an issue with this wedding.
Answer Hmmmm, I can't think of any event that can potentially strain family relationships more than weddings. The question is "Is this within reason for her to ask that the FG not attend either function?" Well, it is her party, so she has every RIGHT to un-invite her niece to the festivities. However, it isn't very gracious. A bride's nightmare could be small children running around the dance floor, sticking fingers in the food and making a scene. Obviously, that isn't what your daughter would do. So here you are with a family dilemma. Assuming SIL is your husbands sister, is it possible that he can speak with her, or what about speaking to your mother-in-law? If you have had a good relationship with sister-in-law prior to this, could you suggest that your daughter attend the meal and cake cutting, but leave prior to the dancing.
Here is your opportunity to handle this situation with grace and good manners. Just remember that long after the ceremony, you will still be family, so let that guide your words and actions.
Best Regards,
Brenda Cascio,
www.graciousbridal.com
