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Question I knew a couple yrs. ago that received a glass goblet that was used (I think) to drink from if they had been fighting.
I think there was a poem with it that the couple resites and then they drink for the glass. I looked this up on the net a while back, but cannot remember what the glass is called. Are you able to help with this?
Answer It is an old French custom and it is called coupe de mariage (literally: cup of the marriage). Traditionally, it's a two-handled cup in glass, china, or metal. However, modern couples may opt for a toasting flute or decorative goblet (especially if there was not a coupe de mariage handed down through the family, or if another family member received it first). The first drink from the cup is done at the wedding reception as part of the bridal toast- in this way it can symbolize many things depending on the preference of the couple though generally the initial drinking is to symbolize unification of the couple.
The coupe de mariage does not have to be used as a way of making up though it is one of the uses. It can also be used to drink from before copulation as symbolic to promote fertility, during anniversaries to celebrate, and is often put on display in the house when it is not being used. The cup is often passed down throughout families when the first daughter marries (hence how it is traditionally passed down through the bride's family).
Interestingly enough, this tradition has spread throughout Europe so there are many associated poems in different languages. In addition, many couples may wish to re-recite their vows or the like. It is all the preference of the couple.
Please let me know if I can help you further or with anything else.
