Expert: Emma - 10/4/2009

Question
I have a third cousin I just met a year ago. He and his wife were invited to our engagement party because other family members wer in attendance who had never met him or seen him in years. I invited him and his wife to our wedding also. The RSVP was returned with him, his wife, both sons and their wives along with their children under 5yrs old for a total of 9 people. I have never met the other 7 people and I don't think my wedding is an appropriate venue for meeting new people, especially such distant relatives.
Do you have any advice on this situation?  How do you uninvite people that weren't invited?

Answer
Hi Alicia,
Easy fix...this requires a phone call from you. Simply call them and say that there was a misunderstanding and though you would love to include everyone, it's simply not available as you've already planned for a certain amount of people. Yes, it's touchy and a bit awkward, but it needs to done! It's either this, or you suck it up and let them come. If your fiance is willing or someone else in your family to make the call for you, more power to you!