AboutBrenda Cascio Expertise As founder and CEO of GraciousBridal.com, I am pleased to offer suggestions for those puzzling situations such as wanting to give personal gifts to bridesmaids that have totally different interests, how to show appreciation to guests on a budget, what small things that can be done to make a huge impact for the ceremony and reception.
Experience At the helm of graciousbridal.com, I am up-to-date on the latest trends. Our products have been featured in the finest wedding and style magazines. I am essentially a consultant to consultants. Because many wedding consultants are a small operation, they don't have access to the vendors, markets and other consultants that we have. Therefore, we use our resources to find those elusive items. Having a party and want to re-create the garden at Tavern-On-The-Green? We provided the marbelized balloons. Are you wanting a garden party with lanterns strung through the trees? We have provided the lanterns with coordinating parasols and hand fans. Want to plan a wedding merging two cultures, I can help navigate you through the potentially sticky situations (now is not the time for a social faux-pas!) It is important to be aware of the various customs in different parts of the country too, and I am more than happy to assist brides, moms and consultants in this.
Education/Credentials Degree in Fine Arts and years of experience in design and marketing prior to becoming involved in the wedding industry.
Question I am 50 years of age and always thought that the mother of the bride should pick out her dress and color so the others in the party don't come in the same color. This was to only request I thought I should have. My daughter and I pick out gray/silver dress for me. My mother wear gray/silver to my wedding and as a tradition it could be carried on. Here's the problem, Her father and I just got divorce after 25yrs and his new to be wife knew the color. She came in the same color long formal even when I was told she was coming informal not to have my male friend formally dress. I went by my daughters request and now my daughter doesn't feel I should be upset. To make things worst I just found out that my daughter help picked out her dress knowing that this was the color of my dress. Has things changed and if so shouldn't she have spoke up before my surprise. I feel that this was done in disrespect.
Answer Hello Jane,
No things have not changed, and yes, this is poor manners and disrespectful. Your daughter should have told you in advance, or advised the new woman to choose another color. It is very appropriate to let your daughter know how hurt you were by this. I would advise you to forgive her though, even if she doesn't apologize. For your sake. Life is hard enough, and dealing with unforgiveness can just clog you up, and make you bitter. It will permeate every part of your being. On the other hand, by forgiving her, you are setting a fine example for her. As she matures, she will recognize your character, and love you even more for it. I wish you the very best, and will put you in my prayers.
--Brenda
