Weddings/uninvited guests
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My daughter's wedding invitation was addressed only to "Mr. and Mrs.". The reply was returned with 4 people attending. The 2 extra people are their adult daughter and guest, who lives on her own. We all had to limit our guest lists because of space and excluded some good friends. We hardly know the girl who was not invited. The wedding is in 2 weeks and the reply came yesterday. How do we handle this touchy situation? The male of the invited couple is the son of a very close friend and the uninvited guest is his step daughter. Thank you, Lenore
Hi Lenore, This does happen occasionally and there are two options.
The first and most popular, although I hate to say it, is "bite the bullet" and let them come. Hopefully your location will be able to accommodate the extra couple or you will have enough regrets to compensate. Usually it works out.
The second is to call the person invited and tell them that you are on a strict guideline of the number of people that can fit into the place and/or a very restricted budget. However, you may leave some bad feelings with this option.
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Gary & Teri
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My main specialties are invitations, catering, and banquet locations or in general, wedding receptions. Started as a family business over 75 years ago I now own and operate a catering & banquet facility for over 30 years and have catered small cookout events to large formal ones with everything in between. I even had an event that was attended by the President of the United States. I have been involved with over three thousand weddings and have been told that I have seen and done it all. I must reply almost, because something new always pops up.
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I have preformed almost every service needed at a reception from invitations, hosting and catering the event to photographing, dj and honeymoon plans with the latter being special circumstances. I have worked and hosted weddings up to 750 guest and other functions up to two thousand. With well over 30 years experiance of consulting with brides I have seen much of what works and does not.
I have also been involved with many business and orginizational functions and also have been listed in "Who's Who" business and executive edition.
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