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Salutations Brenda Cascio,
I am to be married soon and will be inviting guests of many different backgrounds (different political parties, orientations, religious backgrounds etc) with very strong opinions. How can I politely tell them all to "play nice" for this one day or just stay home? ( I considering a polite insert included in the invitation).
On a lighter note, I was also considering asking that every guest include a bit of advice on successful relationships (some of the couples have been married for 50 years) whether it's  relationship with family, friends or a significant other.

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Hi Morgan,
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. And congratulations on being a well-rounded person who surrounds herself with interesting people of varied backgrounds.  You know, we can often keep all of our different selves separate, but here you are, getting married, and your worlds are about to collide.  

I come from a family with WIDELY varied political and religious beliefs.  We are in the middle of a wedding marathon (Eight girl first cousins getting married in 2 1/2 yrs).  I like to believe that people "get it".  Just as they put on nice clothes for a wedding, they also put on their best behavior. Of course, we all have a few that we worry about.  So here's the deal.  Have your most logical and peace-making relative/friend mention to the potential problem-guest that you are wanting a moratorium on any confrontations during the wedding festivities.

I think the advice is a wonderful idea.  We have many couples do this, either with cards in lieu of a guest book, or even the advice coasters.  It will be one of your most treasured memories.  I wish you many blessings!
Brenda Cascio,


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