Women in Religious Life/What do these things mean?


QUESTION: Dear dr.

I'm sorry for all the questions.

As I've told you God seems to be prompting me to return to him. I had terrible experiences at fundementalist churches. False accusations and even treats.

I'm wondering why did these signs come when I was praying to date a young lady? She is not interested and needs to mature. I'm praying she changes.

But I care about her very much even after so long.

I am often told by other older Christians that I'm meant to meet someone else, or that I'm not seeing a God. One priest even refused me to a dating site.

Yet before I knew her I didnt believe in Gods intervention. Now I pray often for her well being and maturity nd possible relationship. I am praying to serve God.

I've felt God convict me of sin, and tell me to return to church.

As I said she has big imperfections but believes in God. And so perhaps God will heal her.

I've been sick so often this year. But continue to pray. Thanks to her ive met many nice people whom I'd never have otherwise.

I need to return to church. And I need to pray she changes, and perhaps sees certain types of men are not worth her time. And even though I'm wracked with doubt I pray for a future with her as more then friends.

ANSWER: I think it is a great thing that God is prompting you to return to Him.  However, I'm hesitant to recommend going to an apostate church (2 Thess. 2).  I say this because they are government ran, and they care about the money more than the people.  I only know this because I've worked in the church for over three years.  What you can do is your own study of God's Word through reading a commentary and/or Bible Dictionary in the meantime (in my opinion).  Also, you need to truly repent, confess and accept Jesus as Lord of your life before it is too late, especially since we are living in the last days, and it could get perilous at any moment. Please write me back if you do take that step as I would like to disciple you (if that is okay with you).

Please keep praying for that person, but only God can change them.  Trust in God and give it to Him to deal with and not you, okay.  I don't want you getting more sick than what you have been already.  I also recommend taking Nutribiotic (www.amazon.com) to boost your immune system and Moringa Oliefera (www.moringasource.com).  These have made a huge difference with my health recently, and I'm sure you will be glad you gave them a try. :)

Also, not everyone is a Christian- at least 90% of the world lost, lukewarm and asleep from what I've experienced, so please do not believe every word you hear from others but fear God more than man.  I encourage you to walk in the Spirit daily by means of three things.  First, pray constantly (1 Thess. 5:17); Second, read/study/memorize God's Holy Word.  Third, praise God in both good and bad times.

I hope this helped and God bless you.

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QUESTION: Doctor, why is this other person involved? Are we meant to be together or something?

I do want to turn my life over to Christ, and have invited him into my life.

ANSWER: I do not know why this other person is involved in your life for I do not have the answers to all of life's questions dear, only God does.  Take it to Him.  He loves you very much.

I really encourage you to repent, confess and accept Jesus as Lord of your life.  Inviting Him is different than having complete surrender, and your response shows lukewarmness, which breaks my heart.  You are in my prayers.  God bless you.

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QUESTION: I want to serve God and do his will, and I WILL go back to church this week.

I WILL keep praying.

I do not want this life anymore. God has to take control.

Amen.  Good.  Seek God in all you do, but remember the true Church are those who wholeheartedly follow Jesus in both word and deed (James 2).  Be careful when going back to church because people will not be as they appear.  God bless you in your journey as you seek to know Him more.

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Dr. Elizabeth Mattke


I can answer questions about women in ministry, possible obstacles and ways to overcome them in a male-dominated world. I am also provide insight on how to make the church a better work evironment; additionally, I will only answer them if they are in question format.


I have worked in six different Christian churches doing Children's Ministry. My positions included "Team Leader" to "Children's Minister." Furthermore, I have volunteered in the church for eighteen years in other areas, such as music, greeting, hospitality and small groups.

Manhattan Christian College Alumni Association Fort Hays State University Alumni Association

“Greater Wichita YMCA Case Study on Servant Leadership” International Journal of Diversity on March 15, 2010 with Franklin Publishing Company “Employer Hiring Practices that Discriminate Against Women in the United States” Ethics and Critical Thinking Journal on June 15, 2010 with Franklin Publishing Company “Afford A Care Case Study on Situational Leadership” International Journal of Diversity on December 15, 2010 with Franklin Publishing Company "Grace: Why is it so Important?" Conflict Resolution and Negotiation Journal on September 15, 2011 with Franklin Publishing Company. "A Comparative Analysis of Subsitent Leadership in the Wichita, Kansas Area with Sonic and Five Guys Restaurant." Business & Law Journal. March 15, 2014 with Franklin Publishing Company. "The Time of the Gentiles." Conflict Resolution and Negotiation Journal. September 15, 2014 with Franklin Publishing Company. “Survival: A Memoir in Dealing with Rape and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.” (April 21, 2011). Chipmunka Publishing: London, England. "A PTSD Workbook for Rape Survivors: The Transformation from Grief to Forgiveness A Christ-Centered Healing Journey" (2012) Chipmunka Publishing: London, England. "Servant-Leadership and Grace: Changing one Person at a Time." (2013). Lambert Academic Publishing: Saarbrücken, Germany.

Atis International Bible College- Honorary Doctor of Theology (D.Th.) 2013 Atis International Bible College- Honorary Doctor of Christian Education (D.C.E.) 2013 St. Luke Evangilical School of Biblical Studies- Ph.D. Biblical Studies 2012 St. Luke Evangilical School of Biblical Studies- Honorary Doctor of Divinity 2012 Fort Hays State University- Master of Liberal Studies in Organizational Leadership 2009 Manhattan Christian College- B.S. Ministry and Leadership 2008 Wichita State University- B.A. Psychology 2007 Butler Community College- A.A. Psychology 2006

Awards and Honors
Runner up for Class President with the Citizen Police Academy- November 3, 2009 Debate Judge for Wichita Collegiate School on October 31, 2009 Guest Speaker for MCC with the WFPS Conference- October 17, 2009 “The Role of Women’s Rights and Rape” was the topic Taught Supervisory Leadership and HR Management- August 2008-December 2009 Put together online B.S. Biblical Leadership program for Manhattan Christian College- August 2007-July 2008 Dean’s Honor Roll at Manhattan Christian College online- Fall 2007 National Scholars Honor Society- January 2007 Chancellor’s List for excellent grades at Butler County Community College– Spring 2004 and 2005 National Deans List- 2001 Who’s Who Among American High School Students for excellent grades at Rose Hill– 1999-2001

Past/Present Clients
My past and current clients consisted of those that were children and families in the Christian church setting.

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