AboutVani Expertise Can handle all questions pertaining to arguments/difference of opinion among friends, spouses, family, colleagues. The crux is to understand the causality and personality of the people involved in such a complex situation.
Experience Being the eldest child in the family and also one of the eldest in the immediate family, I am a very popular person. A decade of work experience has also made be an expert on how to juggle with family and work life in a more balanced manner
Publications I am an expert in Indian Culture and Inlaw Relationship at allexperts.com
Education/Credentials Masters in Business Administration
Expert: Vani Date: 6/30/2008 Subject: my boyfriend is too touchy feely to other women
Question I have a problem with my boyfriend and one of his girlfriends being too touchy feely towards each other. He has explained to me that she is like a sister to him and there is no attraction between them. My problem is that whenever we are out at a friends house or a party and they are both present, they tend to hug, lean and hold on to each other for periods at a time. I 100% believe that they are friends and that they are not flirting. But it makes me uncomfortable when they have so much physical contact. I don't think it is appropriate or mature of them. Also, I don't understand why they don’t realize that it's rude to do it in front of me. I don't mean to be possessive, but I feel that their action crosses the line. I have tried to tell my boyfriend (who is a lawyer and will argue any point) about how I feel, but he makes it seem like I am insecure and that I'm making it seem like there is more to the situation then there is. I have repeatedly told him that it is not jealousy that makes me uncomfortable but the fact that they do it EVERTIME we are all hanging out. I don’t even hug, hold and lean into my boyfriend in public they way she does. It’s gotten to the point that even if he was talking to someone, she would go behind him and hug him from behind while he was in conversation with someone else. I’m also concerned about what my friend would think. I don’t want people reading into the situation and thinking my boyfriend is cheating on me. I’m really at a loss for words. I just hope you can help.
Answer Hi Ayaan,
Its plain and simple that if you really do not like something he should respect your feelings. I guess its time that you sit with him and talk it out in a serious manner, may be he was taking your request too lightly all this while. Explain that this is just not another fancy of yours but its causing you much heartburn.
