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Expert: Kay Lewis - 10/26/2009
Question
Me and my fiance have been together for afew years and it seems that all we do is fight over everything i have two kids of my own and we have one together at the moment i am a stay at home mom and he works odd jobs from home. every day there just seems to be some reason for him to start fighting with me. some days i will admit that i really dont feel like doing anything i just want to chill and then i get screamed at for the house being dirty. i do clean but when i do it dont seem good enough. i give him every thing that he wants and i do everything thing that he wants to dont really talk to anyone and i dont really go anywhere when i do i talk to my neighbor but he hates when i do. all i want is the fighting to stop he has said afew times that if the fighting dont stop then he is going to just move out. I dont want that I want to work on this. So my question is how do I make things work with him and stop all of the fighting?
Answer
Something must be aggravating him. It's probably no the little things you described in your letter to me. The two of you need to discuss what upsets him so you can come up with some type of stress relief for him. Don't automatically think you are the problem. It could be someone or something else or even him. He could be frustrated that he doesn't have enough time with the family. So you WILL have to find out from him what his true problem is . Then the TWO of you will have to develop a solution. If he is unhappy in the relationship you two will have to discuss what each of you needs from each other. Then you each will pick one item at a time to work on for a few weeks. Then you each will pick another item to work on and do that for a few weeks and so on.
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