AboutVani Expertise Can handle all questions pertaining to arguments/difference of opinion among friends, spouses, family, colleagues. The crux is to understand the causality and personality of the people involved in such a complex situation.
Experience Being the eldest child in the family and also one of the eldest in the immediate family, I am a very popular person. About 13 years of work experience has also made be an expert on how to juggle with family and work life in a more balanced manner.
Publications I am an expert in Indian Culture and Inlaw Relationship at allexperts.com
Education/Credentials Masters in Business Administration
Question Hi I need help bad. me and my husband have been to gather for 3 years and we got married May 9th 2009. In other words we are newly wedds. but the problem is we can't stop fighting ever since we got married. every little thing we say starts a fight. he had a job when we were dating and was attending high school but after we married he quit his job and stoped attending school. he's a major video game addict now. And we just can't stand each other anymore everthing we say or do will start a fight one way or another and most of the fighting started because his mother would interfear in our lives like no other she would do wat ever it took to break us up and now that we are married she incouriges every negative thing and is contantly tell him that he should consider divorce and trying to get him to do that and i know from the deapness of our hearts that thing would be so much better if she was dead i know that an horrible thing to say but it has come to that. We tryed talking to her but she ends up making a big sceane in public places or even at home it so embarasing and as for the random stupid fights me and my huband constantly have now we try talking it out but one of us just ends up saying something mean or even the way a certain thing is said will set us of. we have gotten so used to fighting about wat his mom does to us that we ended up fighting for the hell of fighting almost like she just rubed of on us. we even find a way to fight about sex. this is hell and i need to know how to fix this before our relationship is completely over. i know we still have hope because we have had moments where we just have fun and enjoy eachothers company but for some resone it never lasts.
Answer Hi KC,
You both need to do some serious talking, not when he is on the video game or when you are busy with daily chores. Go out, sit together under the open sky and talk. Be honest, talk about things which you normally avoid. Let him know that you are ready to put in efforts to make it work. He needs to get busy with a job and school. You need a financial back up plan, since you now have responsibility. Let him know that he should ask his mother to be a bit less interfering. Try not to criticize her, it may just put him off. Since you feel that the passion can be ignited again, give it another chance.
