How to Work Out Arguments With a Loved One/argument
Hi! My name is Tatjana. I was in a relationship since may 2015 with a man, Aleksandar. We had good relationship full of love and understanding. He is very emotional and sometimes I felt suffocated by his emotions. That's the main reason we had a fight in may 2016. He backed up and never called because he felt hurt by me. I called him first after a month and we met. At first he seemed angry and hurt but as the evening went on he asked me for some time to think about it all. I called him after a week and I said I miss him. We talked for an hour and agreed to meet soon. Again we met and now things seem more clear. He told me that he is afraid he will be hurt again by me leaving him. He said he was hurt and he buried himself in work and now he realized he has deadlines he can't meet and at the same time he is afraid of our relationship, if he gives me another chance that we will break up again. He has some abandonment issues I didn't know before (he was abandoned as a child by his father). But we talked a lot and I said to him I want to give us another chance especially now I know what his issues are. I said I love him and I never wanted to break up, I only wanted to take some time to think. He asked me gently for some more time to think about it all and he said he loves me still. I definitely want to make us work and I am willing to try. My question is what should I do to make this work? And how long should I let him think?
I'm very sorry for this delay in replying to you. I hope things are smooth now and he's taken a firm decision. He's emotional and you know the reason why. He cannot handle any harsh thing and you'll have to handle him with kid gloves always. If you think this relationship has a future and you're good friends, be calm and ensure that arguments end smoothly. Do not threaten or take quick decisions like parting ways. He's a nice person and that's what you need, right?