Expert: mom1959 - 3/6/2005

Question
I wouldn't dare tell her right now.  She would flip the bucket if she knew I had converted.  Mom's a great person, but she lives in her own little world.  Her catching us having sex rocked the world.  Her finding out I converted to Wicca would blow the world apart.  That's a conversation reserved for a much more stable time.  I am considering waiting until I move out.  I really have no idea how she would react.  Accepting is a possibility, but if I told her now most likely it would be an all girls Christian high school far away.

If I could get her calmed down about the whole sex issue I might be able to focus on other things.  I've already told her that yelling, crying, and threatening wouldn't change anything.  She just did everything twice as much.

If pregnancy was completely out of the picture, which in my mind it is, how could say for example your daughter / son calm you down assuming you would get upset like my mom?  

Answer
Well I told my daughter exactly how I felt about it.
We have discussed this issue together, she doesn't want
to ruin her future and there would be no way she could
ever make up for that.  My daughter is now 21 and wants
to start her life on the right foot...no mistakes.  I
would rather not know if she does or doesn't have sex;
but I do know there will be no guys sleeping over and
her bedroom door wide open regardless how old she is
since this is a home not a hotel.  By calming your mom
down in the future, don't have sex in your home! As for
your religion change, it would be best to wait until you
moved out or don't tell her at all.