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How to Work Out Arguments With a Loved One/Questions Answered by Expert Vani
| Subject | Date Asked |
| What do you think happened to my money? | 2/9/2012 |
| Q: My bf and I have been together for 3 years (both 23) our moms have been best friends since before we ... A: You admit that you have been wrong in the past, so why not give this one a miss too? You have an ... | |
| My Messy Mate | 2/6/2012 |
| Q: I have a recurring problem with my boyfriend whom I do love. We share the same bedroom obviously. I ... A: There will be a lot of people who would tell you to ignore it but I know how difficult it is to ... | |
| Jealous Over Video Games | 1/13/2012 |
| Q: I am in an amazing relationship with a guy I adore. Unfortunately, we don’t share a lot of hobbies. ... A: There is no cause for concern here, at all! When he plays games, you can read or surf the net or ... | |
| wife deceived to hide something | 12/21/2011 |
| Q: My wife was behaving differently and becoming emotionally distant and I was scared she was having an ... A: Ethically and legally you have no right to pry like this, she may revolt at this very idea. But from ... | |
| confuse | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: my name is ravi i am from north eastern part of india and i want you to help me,during this two ... A: This girl is not worthy enough, she just isn't sure about anything in life. The more you get ... | |
| Explosive situation | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: My name is Mehdi. I am a 33 year-old male, living in Iran and working as a pharmacist (I have a ... A: My apology for the delay in replying to your query and thanks so much for writing this in such ... | |
| A lying husband | 12/14/2011 |
| Q: I have a problem. I do not trust my husband because I have caught him lying to me so many times. I ... A: Why does he lie to you is the question!! Does he fear that you may throw a fit even at a harmless ... | |
| Fallen into Routine | 12/5/2011 |
| Q: Before I ask for advice, I feel that I should give you a short background, so that you would have a ... A: This is all the info that I need to find out what's going wrong and why. Yes, you have tons to do ... | |
| Long term relationship problems | 12/3/2011 |
| Q: My bf and I have been dating since we were 16, for approximately 6 years. I have had a lot of issues ... A: You have a right to have your own beliefs and expecting that he respect them. And if he does not ... | |
| Argument regarding a shared hard drive with important info | 11/24/2011 |
| Q: This disagreement might seem somewhat silly, but it is bothersome to me and I feel the need to get ... A: You have a right to be careful and better be safe than sorry when it comes to the net. Right now ... | |
| confused | 11/12/2011 |
| Q: "hi im 14 and a freshman in highschool and i stared out the year Great mainly cause i had my ... A: You should try discussing this with him once but when he is alone so that even if he is angry nobody ... | |
| The Ex | 11/5/2011 |
| Q: I'm 28 years old and have been dating my current boyfriend for 4 pretty perfect months. No fights, ... A: Chill for now but keep your eyes and ears open. He is a soft hearted person and she is in a mess, ... | |
| keeping a promise | 10/25/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I just got back together after he cheated on me. One of the conditions of us ... A: Sorry for the delay in replying. Just observe him next few days, if you think he is back to his old ... | |
| Boyfriend wants me to be harsher... | 9/19/2011 |
| Q: I seem to be having this reoccuring issue with my boyfriend. He's one of those people whom you ... A: Even twins don't behave in a similar manner so how can he expect that you will deal with people and ... | |
| Arguing.. | 8/19/2011 |
| Q: Every time me and my boyfriend argue, it's really bad. I honestly think he's bipolar. We would yell ... A: Nope Shakira, This would only make things worse in the long run. Try and make a list of topics ... | |
| engagement pressure | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: my name is Stacee and I am 22 years old living in New York City. I am a senior at my last year in ... A: I see a great future with this guy, why don't you wait for a while and just hang in there? Take care ... | |
| loved one | 8/12/2011 |
| Q: I'm not sure how i can resolve this problem, I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years, i love her ... A: She felt bad and hurt as she would have thought that your daughter would at least be polite to her. ... | |
| I don't know if i should end my 4 year relationship | 7/26/2011 |
| Q: This past year we have been fighting a lot. Mostly over him lying about small things because he ... A: Am sure by now you both have patched up and cooled down. This relationship is going through a rough ... | |
| arguments are our normal | 7/23/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend on and off for the past 2 years. During those 2 years we also created ... A: It's clear that you want to make it work and do see a future with him. It would be good for your son ... | |
| Issues with my girlfriend's Ex-boyfriends | 7/12/2011 |
| Q: It seems very odd to me to be doing this but I guess I need someone to turn to for some help and ... A: Ask her that if she were such good friends why did she part ways with them? This is not so normal ... | |
| What's going on? | 7/3/2011 |
| Q: Me and this girl were together for about 9 months. Then one night things went badly and she said it ... A: She wants to have her cake and eat it too. If she walked out on you, that is indication enough that ... | |
| Relationship over/not over | 6/30/2011 |
| Q: 6 weeks ago my fiance and I had what has turned out to be a huge argument and she has not spoken, ... A: You care for her and would want a great future, so why not just drop by at her workplace or her ... | |
| An Unreasonable request? | 6/24/2011 |
| Q: My fiancee and myself have been in a long term relationship for 11 years, and sometimes we don't ... A: Let's see it this way - a father gives pocket money to a son and then tells him how and on what ... | |
| Arguments | 6/22/2011 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together almost a year now. In the first couple of months everything ... A: It's the distance that is causing all chaos. Can you try and be in same cities? He likes to be ... | |
| Anger management | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 15 year old from Delhi. My problem is that i get really angry on stupid stuff very fast..i get ... A: Hey Simran, You don't have to sleep or wake up the way they want but just think what happens if ... | |
| Arguments and violence | 5/28/2011 |
| Q: I met my husband while his late wife was dying of terminal cancer last year. I am his youngest ... A: You both fell in love, you liked each other, you thought life would be so good when you marry, ... | |
| my boyfriend lacks maturity | 5/20/2011 |
| Q: To give some background info, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 8 months. This ... A: You can't do much to change him, it should have been done by his parents and guardian to help him ... | |
| husband | 5/16/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 20 years. He always takes other peoples side during a difference ... A: It just seems to have become a habit with him since he is old enough to realize that you are hurt! ... | |
| Difference of Opinion -- did she or I overreact? | 5/9/2011 |
| Q: My cousin, V., and I are very close. I consider V. my best friend. Recently we've been spending ... A: Since your aunt has informed your Dad about this, sit with him and explain that why V was irritable ... | |
| Unresolved argument with husband | 5/6/2011 |
| Q: I am only 5 months married. My husband works on shift and every week we will not be seeing each ... A: He cares about you and is actually pretty comfortable with his shift job. When one works odd hours, ... | |
| need advice here...please help | 5/4/2011 |
| Q: ok so yesterday was my ex boyfriend's birthday...i havent spoken to him in 2 months but we left off ... A: You have to decide how far you want to go - you want him back as just a friend or as a boyfriend? ... | |
| long time no sex | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: I had a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 yrs and recently we desided to talk about our our ... A: The past cannot be changed and if any of it governs the present or the future, you will only suffer. ... | |
| Distant boyfriend | 4/20/2011 |
| Q: Alex and I have been dating for little over a year. I'm a year and ten months younger than he is, ... A: Yes, there is a difference in the way men express love and the way women do. In this case it's also ... | |
| Convincing my parents | 4/11/2011 |
| Q: My cousin who is 20 lives in Georgia. Me and him are pretty close,he's like a brother to me. He ... A: If he is saying no, there must be a reason behind it. Sit with him and talk to him, don't argue or ... | |
| Constant Fighting With Girlfriend | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: Vani, I'm Indian, like you!!:) I'm very upset with the way my girlfriend and I have a shouting ... A: First of all you will have to be a patient listener and assume that whenever she tells you her ... | |
| $ 100 | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: i got in to a messy spot recently. my husband wanted to buy me a car and after paying an advance of ... A: Of course you want to discuss it and may be say some nasty things about the dealer, sit with your ... | |
| Argument | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for almost three and a half years now. We are both 25, and four weeks ... A: He is not only hurt by the fact that you went ahead with your decision without informing him, but ... | |
| Relationship | 3/20/2011 |
| Q: I am a 18yrs old christian boy who loves a muslim girl. Last few days before I had a fight with her ... A: She is being honest as she knows that religion can be a big issue with both families. Just be good ... | |
| Relationship | 3/19/2011 |
| Q: I am a 18yrs old christian boy who loves a muslim girl. Last few days before I had a fight with her ... A: You both are too young to take a decision for a lifetime yet. So take it cool, live each day afresh. ... | |
| :( | 2/12/2011 |
| Q: "my boyfriend and i are first cousin, no one knows about it. but then her mother instinct sense that ... A: You are both young and have a life ahead of you to take major decisions. In my opinion, if he does ... | |
| Brother and boyfriend are not getting along | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: I have been dating a great guy for the past 6 months, and I love him with all my heart. I live with ... A: Just apply this to yourself, it's your apartment and your brother and his girl friend are a bit too ... | |
| one argument | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: I am engaged to a man who is genuinely a very gentleman: responsible and kind. He is a dream of ... A: This is your true love, don't give it up for some beauty treatment. This relationship can be an ... | |
| :( | 1/27/2011 |
| Q: "my boyfriend and i are first cousin, no one knows about it. but then her mother instinct sense that ... A: He was just simply angry and spoke words which he never meant, so forgive and forget. You are both ... | |
| home for the holidays | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: I have been home for the holidays for one week now and my bf is angry and resentful and blaming me. ... A: In fact this guy is acting like a teenager!! You have a responsibility towards your family and ... | |
| He can't get over my sexual past. | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: I don't know if it matters but he's Latino and I'm white. He's one of the most amazing guys I've ... A: Do not share any more of your past with him, what's over is over. Give him some time to come back to ... | |
| My mother is rude to my boyfriend | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: My mother is impolite and rude to my boyfriend. She doesn't say hello or good-bye to him. He trys to ... A: Is there a particular reason why she does not like him - you need to find that out. It could also be ... | |
| Is he feeling guilty or just being a jerk? | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend (18) for about a year and 3 months now. During the second month we ... A: Trust me if this guy were to hover around you 24x7, you will get suffocated. Let him have a gang ... | |
| Am i over reacting | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: I'm getting married very soon but I have a problem with my fiance's habit. He occasionally checks ... A: It's time to pay him back in the same coin. Try glancing at any handsome males that are around ... | |
| Conflicting feelings | 11/4/2010 |
| Q: I’m writing you for advice because I feel like giving up. My girlfriend and I have drifted apart ... A: What she means is that she is committed but if you do not give her that assurance, she may decide to ... | |
| fighting about everything | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend go to the same school and we see each other everyday. When me and him don't ... A: To nurture this relationship you need to give each other adequate freedom and space. Hang around ... | |
| Why won't he believe me? | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: Well here goes. Complete truth - no fudging to make me look good or him look bad. At this point I ... A: My apologies but am not an expert on the kind of problem you are facing but will try and offer some ... | |
| please help | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: I'm 28 and recently married. My husband recently developed exzema on his lips and warts on his ... A: He is in bad shape both physically and emotionally, he needs your 100% trust and support right now. ... | |
| I want him to talk to me | 9/21/2010 |
| Q: :) I've been talking to this guy for alil over a year on & off. He just came back from Afghanistan ... A: Text him once every 15 days, or better if you have a common friend then tell him that you are ... | |
| me and my boyfriend | 9/19/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend been going out for two months now and like everyday we get in too little fights ... A: This is not very normal if it's happening almost on a daily basis. You both need to sit down and ... | |
| problems with my mom | 9/17/2010 |
| Q: actually we get along fine, but sometimes I've got the feeling that she isn't really happy with her ... A: You are an ideal daughter and so understanding at this young age. Yes, from your mail it looks like ... | |
| I want him to talk to me | 9/16/2010 |
| Q: :) I've been talking to this guy for alil over a year on & off. He just came back from Afghanistan ... A: He was hurt by the fact that his friend (you) misunderstood him and his intentions. Yes, he wanted ... | |
| we argue about everything | 8/26/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were off and on dating for about a year before we moved in with each other five ... A: Not a very good sign and this financial trouble is only adding to the chaos. Firstly, you need to ... | |
| Is it worthless? | 8/5/2010 |
| Q: Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost months now; and we've been fighting a lot. ... A: Just bid him a farewell, he is not your guardian nor are you his slave. You are an intelligent human ... | |
| Relationship Help | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: My significant other and I have been at odds for a month. All we seem to do is bicker anymore. I ... A: This financial mess is taking its toll, as whatever you plan the thought is always at the back of ... | |
| I was a jerk to my ex. How can I apologize without being obnoxious? | 7/20/2010 |
| Q: A few days ago, I was browsing on a question/answer site that my long-distance ex from a few months ... A: My apology for replying so late. In my opinion, just bury it here and now. You did something that ... | |
| Argument help! | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and I'm writing because I have a situation I just can't make sense of. Last night I ... A: Am sure by now things have become normal and you are happy again. It's possible that he was ... | |
| forgiveness | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: I did a terrible thing to my daughter Inlaw. I was talking on the phone with my Daughter and was ... A: You have said sorry but am sure it still hurts her, more so as it came so suddenly from a person ... | |
| Trying to stop the fighting | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: I just need a few tips on how to Minamize fights with my fiance. Latly it seems like we fight a ... A: Try and keep a record of such arguments, in a while you will find a pattern that what exactly ... | |
| parental advice needed | 7/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and will be entering college in the fall. I was recently invited to go on a trip to ... A: In that case just approach them with this request and also add that this will make you happy, and is ... | |
| family vacation | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are trying to convince his family to let me join them on vacation this August. ... A: Just go and meet his parents, talk to them face to face. Let them know that it will be an ... | |
| Confused | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: Please bear with me, my story is quite long but there's a lot of events that I feel ought to be ... A: Sorry for the delay in replying but I guess it's high time you forgave and forgot your past. Till ... | |
| Boyfriend with anger issues | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for around 7 years and even though we've broken up a ... A: Try this for some time and check if it's having an impact : ... | |
| I want us to work this out | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We love each other so much. We are both in ... A: The distance makes things very difficult, you can't be with each other when you want to. Firstly, do ... | |
| Getting him to help me | 5/26/2010 |
| Q: So i used your advice and suggested that we get a maid to help me clean our house. I was the one ... A: He knows very well that he is not helping you with the daily chores and it's not a good habit. But ... | |
| My friend has pretty abusive parents and sister... | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: Online, and only online, I'm friends with someone nicknamed "Paws." She's a nice person, very sweet. ... A: She needs moral and emotional support more than any ideas, so just be there for her. Yes, she can ... | |
| same fight over and over | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: Me and my fiance have a great relationship. But we've been having this one fight over and over and ... A: Believe me, have seen tons of cases like these where mothers raised their sons like princes and they ... | |
| resentment and arguments.. | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were together two years, then split due to stressful lives that led to arguments. ... A: In this age where passwords are guarded with life, he shared it all with you!! This is the best time ... | |
| love issues | 3/14/2010 |
| Q: I have had a 4 years relationship with my boyfriend. Be both are expatriates and we studied ... A: He is not a 12 year old who can't decide which color sneakers to wear for sports day!!! He is a ... | |
| Real or Fake? | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: We'll for starters let me state that my boyfriend and I have known each other for 3 1/2 years. We ... A: Am sorry to say but this guy is never going to be an emotional support to you - a friend, ... | |
| deep rooted anger issues.... | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: Here is my problem. I have a very big problem with my boyfriend of three years. We are completely ... A: You know where this problem stems from and so it's easy in a way to tackle it. Is it possible for ... | |
| Disagreements in a steady relationship | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: Hey. I'm 20yrs old and am curently studying whilst my boyfriend of 2yrs is working. We are engaged ... A: You are young and this is the time to enjoy life without any burdens. Am surprised that he is unable ... | |
| dating dilemma | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: So, I been dating this guy for over 8 months. We see each other about once a week. We live about an ... A: Just leave him alone for next few days, don't even try to call him, just ignore. If he is confused, ... | |
| help me please | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: Me and my bf ( who is 20 years older than me) have been arguing over nothing recently. He cheated on ... A: He is almost double your age, no way can you both think and act in a similar way!! He will always ... | |
| boyfriend problem | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend is always mad at me for something i didnt do. sometimes i cant take it anymore. i cant ... A: Sit with him and explain your viewpoint on this, give him an ultimatum that you are not going to be ... | |
| mom age 83 | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: GIVING AWAY IS NOT AN OPTION - I just purchased the clothes in the last two years and I did not ... A: When you are next packing things up call a friend / cousin over, it can be a fun exercise and ... | |
| Struggling Relationship | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: we talked and both agreed on things that needed to change i openly admitted for my wrong doings and ... A: You both need some time by yourself, some space to lead individual lives. You are possessive and may ... | |
| i just need your help..please..:( | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: . ok where do i start?? ive been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, and recently we have ... A: You both need each other and this is very clear. For once when he is not on to his computer, talk ... | |
| not sure where we could go from here | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have dated for two years. Things started out like a dream, we always listened to ... A: Try and analyze things with no bias - is the house so bad, was the decision to buy one so wrong, are ... | |
| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ... A: It's normal to compare her with your other relations and realize that she was far better. The fact ... | |
| Step mom | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: Okay so me and my step mom are having MAJOR problems and I'm so sick of her yelling at me every ... A: Why don't you talk to your Dad - a heart to heart chat - when she is not around and when he is in a ... | |
| bad times | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: ok i been wit my boyfriend for 6 months now i love him so much but it seem like he don't feel the ... A: Does he trust you, care for you and respect you as an individual? If yes, don't pay attention to the ... | |
| I dont think I wil ever forgive my mom enough to let her back into my life?? NEED GUIDANCE PLEASE! | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: I am not sure where to begin with this, because for you to completely understand my unforgiving ways ... A: There is no need to feel guilty for anything related to her, you have done your best. Keep your kids ... | |
| Arguments | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a little over a year now, and we've been fighting since we ... A: He wanted the honeymoon to be picture perfect but it wasn't, he is incapable of handling any ... | |
| how can I forgive my mom? | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I lived on my own since I was 18, I am 21 now. my mom moved in with me because my ex boyfriend ... A: People who don't keep pets can't fathom the love you have for your cats. Am sorry that you can't ... | |
| relationship issues | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: would like to ask how to deal with longdistance relationship..been with my boyfriend for over 2 ... A: Long distance relationships put a lot of strain on people as you are always communicating via a ... | |
| Resolving conflict | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I agreed that I would write to an online expert with advice on how to resolve ... A: You guys are leading a normal life, not with the armed forces where a subordinate can't use certain ... | |
| boyfriend trouble | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for three years now. i am going to college four hours away from ... A: It's the distance that's making you both so short tempered that you get into arguments. You would ... | |
| Stress and Anxiety are Ruining my Relationship!! | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: I am a 23 year old graduate student and i've been with my bf for about a 1 1/2. We've always had our ... A: He is still in love with you and cares for you. As you rightly pointed out, these emotional ... | |
| About my "Comfort Level" | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm currently dating a guy who lives in Canada and I live in the US. We've gotten to know each other ... A: If you are not comfortable doing something and he does not respect your feelings, this is not the ... | |
| Sister hates my gf | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: Hey im 22 years old my gf is 21. recently my gf had twins. since im studying to become a doctor i ... A: One reason could be that she is too attached to you and sees this new addition to the family as a ... | |
| 4 years then he just goes missing?? | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: Now in that time when there has been an issue come up once in awhile mostly when hes been out ... A: Hope things have fallen in place now!! In my opinion, he is using this 'running away' bit too much ... | |
| the arguments never stop | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: me && my boyfriend peter are 18 && have been dating for almost 9 months now.he really loves me I ... A: Normally arguments happen when you give importance to petty things, take things to heart too soon, ... | |
| I don't know how to deal with my daughter | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: My daughter has a child with a person whom is in & out of her life, has nothing to do with my ... A: She is happy being miserable and there is nothing which can convince her to divorce this man, till ... | |
| I'm so exhausted - should we end this up? | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: Sorry for long e-mail! This is cutting me to pieces! I'm with this guy for a year and a half. We're ... A: Marrying now is out of question till you can be sure that there is some common point left between ... | |
| advice | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: Is it right to eat up my pride?all i wanted is for him also to feel what i felt for the things he ... A: Belated Anniversary Wishes !!! Am sure, things are perfect now. He said things that he regrets, he ... | |
| conditions? | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years now. We are happy and very much so in ... A: Just ignore this comment as a nasty one when he is off mood. Quite likely he saw a woman who was ... | |
| My past is catching up to me | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: "Hi, My bf and I have been together over 4 months but I have known him since birth. Our moms have ... A: It will not just erase from his memory, it will take time. Best way out is not to talk about it at ... | |
| Separate Vacations tearing us up! What do we do? | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: My life partner of 4 years and I (45) (he, 46) has had an ongoing argument about who and how to ... A: He seems to be too stuck on this guy thing and will never understand the fact that you need him more ... | |
| My 22 year old doesn't get along with my boyfriend of 2 years | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: My 22 year old daughter, who's in college does not like my boyfriend of 2 years. Up until about a ... A: It's the best that you can do, let her be and work things out. She is a bit aloof as she does not ... | |
| work out arguments | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: My story is very long and complicated so please plase bear with me. I have been looking for a ... A: Hey Mitch, First of all you are suffering from the guilt of a crime which actually wasn't one. When ... | |
| Constant fighting with my husband.. | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: me and my husband have been to gather for 3 years and we got married May 9th 2009. In other words we ... A: You both need to do some serious talking, not when he is on the video game or when you are busy with ... | |
| What should i do? | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating almost 8 months. in the beginning our relationship was the ... A: One way out would be to meet a bit less and ignore trivial issues. Move around sometimes with a gang ... | |
| help | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been through something pretty crazy, and I don't know if thats the main ... A: The fact that he is with you is proof enough that you are good for him. You have to be happy about ... | |
| i cant trust him now | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: well here it goes: this has been an ongoing problem: my bf has been lying to me and telling me he ... A: You just need to get yourself so busy that you have no time to even think about him. You have to be ... | |
| never see my wife | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: I'm going to try and make this as short as i can. A while back my wife and i started doing this ... A: It's her way of getting rid of all work related stress. I think you need to sit with her and talk ... | |
| I pushed Him Away! | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: Well My boyfriend And I were doing good in the beginning of the year then he started having family ... A: Yes Daybie, There is hope where there is love. Just give him some time and space to solve his ... | |
| relationship trust issues and jealousy | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: my name is Luis im with a girlfriend of mine for around a year. There are many issues such as ... A: When you know that you will miss her if she were to move away, then why get into such a situation? ... | |
| Winning back a loved one | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been involved with the love of my life for the past 7 years. We went to high school ... A: If she is going to be at a distance from this so-called friend, she will be able to think logically. ... | |
| Boyfriend troubles | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: I havn't been with my boyfriend for long, but I know him well. Everything is messed up now because ... A: Meet him and explain that how you have been cheated on in the past and so somehow did not trust him ... | |
| This girl I like took a joke i said seriously | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: I was texting this girl and i wasn't really thinking and i made a really stupid joke. I was looking ... A: You got to talk to her and apologize in person, that would convince her that you didn't mean it at ... | |
| How to understand her thoughts and her decision about me | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: My name is Shyam, and I am writing from India. I am unable to understand, my girl. I am loving this ... A: Never ever tell them about this intimacy, no parent can tolerate that. Your case will fall flat if ... | |
| Differences in opinions. | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: I am 26 years old male. I belong to software background. My girl friend has transferred to ... A: Once she is back in India, she will cling on to you!! Yes, she will as whatever she is doing in the ... | |
| My boyfriend has become a jerk. | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together for over 2 years, its a long-distance relationship. We both are 18 ... A: Just let him be in his mad world, he is taking you for granted and actually enjoys seeing you feel ... | |
| gift | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband has a nephew who he hasn’t spoken to or seen in MANY years. The reason is because of his ... A: His nephew will be more than happy to read a mail from him or hear his voice, money is not going to ... | |
| 3 years and an X prob? | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend (33) and I (26) have been together for about 3 years. He is a very faithful guy never ... A: First, his ex texts him, mails him, calls him and he does not care one bit about it. Second, he does ... | |
| How to understand her thoughts and her decision about me | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: My name is Shyam, and I am writing from India. I am unable to understand, my girl. I am loving this ... A: She will have to fight her own battle, you can't do things for her. She has to stand up for her love ... | |
| Dont know what to do | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: I have a little problem and I was thinking about going to talk to a consoler about my relationship ... A: In my opinion, you should not tolerate his misbehavior for any reason. He has no right to call you ... | |
| i cant trust him now | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: well here it goes: this has been an ongoing problem: my bf has been lying to me and telling me he ... A: No way can you give up on Oxford for him or this relationship. Trust me that all your old friends ... | |
| time to give up? | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: My live in bf of almost two years is really depressed. He lost his job and totally lost. He's life ... A: It's not important to get him a high salary job, it's crucial to keep him creatively occupied. If he ... | |
| Should I break up with my boyfriend? | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and I am starting to wonder if I should end it. ... A: Just imagine that you had not snooped on his email, how would you behave with him then? If for 9 ... | |
| Baby MAMA-DRAMA | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months and we are from 2 different cities in VA. Alomost every ... A: If you trust him and plan a future with him, stop entertaining her calls completely. She is just ... | |
| relationships | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: hey. iv been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now we are both 22. when i first met him he was ... A: Make a schedule like you would meet your own gang once every month or fortnight and rest of the days ... | |
| Possesiveness? | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: Recently i have gotten into a relationship with a girl and i love her so much, like more than i've ... A: You are completely justified in being worried if this party is all about drugs and alcohol, explain ... | |
| Not sure how to approach the whole situation | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: Hey guys i need some advice please! Well my ex and i broke off because she said she wasnt ready for ... A: She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Just let her know that you are there for her always but ... | |
| arguments | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: me in my so call boyfriend. been have the same arguments about my past.yes i did have ex-boyfirnd ... A: If this guy is so caught up with your past that he can't even see a rosy future, it is best to leave ... | |
| i may be too narcissitic... please help me understand | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. We're both about 23. I'm not even sure ... A: If you do not want him to see those posters, keep chits hidden in all nooks and corners which you ... | |
| i'm too sensitive | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: My name is Justine and I'm thirteen years old. For the last couple of months, I think I have ... A: Hey Justine, It's great that you actually know what's the problem and why people avoid you, trust ... | |
| I'm tired and broken | 3/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20 from Tehran, Iran, and my girl friend, Shima, is 19. I met her about 2 years ago, we loved ... A: A girl is not able to decide whom to choose - true love or riches, I guess she does not deserve you ... | |
| My girlfriend is leaving me | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20 from Tehran, Iran, and my girl friend, Shima, is 19. I met her about 2 years ago, we loved ... A: You both are young and at this age it's easy to get affected by friends' opinions and get confused. ... | |
| arguments | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: well im 18 and i have a boyfriend who is the say age.my boyfriend and i get in to an a big arguments ... A: This guy does not deserve you, if he cannot respect you as a person. The past cannot be used as to ... | |
| always into it | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: okay well me and my girlfriend have been together for a year now and lately for some odd reason we ... A: One can change and improve if one is aware of what the shortcomings are. If you both feel that both ... | |
| i may be too narcissitic... please help me understand | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. We're both about 23. I'm not even sure ... A: Took time to reply as your's is a very unique case and I didn't want to give a quick reaction. I ... | |
| Need Advice Please | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: I thought about going to a counsoler but I dont know if thats the right thing right now..I'v been in ... A: Please take help of a counsellor, that would aid in seeing many aspects where changes can be made. ... | |
| My son in law takes things out of proportion | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: My daughter had a baby she did not want my step granddaughter to go to the hospital for fear that ... A: There is no point in arguing with this person nor can you talk logic. So let things cool down and ... | |
| Trouble with my parents | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: !! I'm 14 and my parents, from my opinion, are being very unfair right now. Okay here goes, my ... A: They are just worried about you and care for your grades. Sit with them and explain that now you ... | |
| Prom excusse! | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: ok so heres how it goes.im a senior and my boyfriend is a junior. last year when we were talking i ... A: Send him a hand written love note saying you'd make a lovely couple and you want to go to the prom ... | |
| Ex in the family. | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: A friend of mine needs help. Here's her situation. She had always had intimacy and trust issues, ... A: She should just get on with a new life, this person is not worth trusting. What if this SIL of his ... | |
| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ... A: Run away as fast as you can, this man is nasty and he can be dangerous. Don't even allow him to take ... | |
| I feel all alone | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 4 months now. I have lived with my husband for over a year. We are both in the ... A: You are not alone in this, there are many spouses sailing in the same boat. Have a look at : ... | |
| My girlfriend has her walls up | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: I need some advice, here is the situation, I was dating a woman on and off for roughly 8 months. It ... A: She is feeling hurt by the fact that you actually didn't tell her the full truth. It's natural, ... | |
| Table manners | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: My wife said she turns down dinner invites with her friends becuase I have bad table manners ... A: She has put it across very bluntly and am sure you are feeling real bad. You got to overcome his ... | |
| Which state do we move to becuase of our families? | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: My fiance and i met 2 years ago in colorado have lived together the entire time. About a year and a ... A: One of you will have to make a sacrifice, now decide who it should be. If you only have your mother ... | |
| Our daughter is about to marry a guy we don't like. | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: My daughter met a guy Dec. 2007 and moved in with him Feb. 2008, got engaged Apr. 08 and is planning ... A: Your daughter is in love with this guy and no way is she going to agree to calling off this wedding. ... | |
| Should I Stay or Go | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: The reason I am writing to you today is because I have a trust issue. Me and my boyfriend have been ... A: You are being too harsh with your own self, learn to let go of the past. Trust this guy, he is true ... | |
| how to deal when I hurt someone's feelings | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: My close friend recently got married and I was not able to go. They had a strange marriage, it was ... A: Your friend is very happy and so you should just relax. She will reply when she is a bit free and ... | |
| Distrust in relationship | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend going on two years now, and living together for a year. I am 25 and he ... A: You have to shift his focus from you to something more in life, try that he goes out with his ... | |
| I want to fix this! | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: Well first off This girl has hurt me in the past, We dated on and off six times. Then she moved to a ... A: This relationship is becoming more of a testing game than anything else. If you are comfortable ... | |
| problematic dad..!!! | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm Sayantani from India...it's the traditional problem - my dad doesn't approve of my ... A: My apology for this delay is replying to your query. This as you know is an age old problem whereby ... | |
| Struggles to make it work | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 19. We're young and we know that but we want to be ... A: Best way to work things out is to get a lot of 'me' time, have a separate gang of friends and learn ... | |
| long distance troubles | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: Me and my fiance, who live in different countries by the way, have just had a discussion. We've ... A: He wants to marry you and dreams of a life together in one place / city. May be he said this as he ... | |
| Is it cheating? | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: I am 42 and have a 49-yr-old boyfriend. We've only been together for 2 months but have agreed to be ... A: Since he has promised not to do it again, just wait and watch. Let him know that you are not OK with ... | |
| Relationship In Distress | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 21 year old college student. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He lives in ... A: If you hardly meet once a month and then too end up arguing, this shows that there is no strong urge ... | |
| Boyfriend wants to smoke - my choice? | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend was a really big smoker, and he cut down a lot to spend time with me. I am an ex ... A: If you both quit smoking, it's for your individual health benefits. It's not about obliging anybody ... | |
| i dont know | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for 9 months now. Our relationship has its ups and ... A: The best way to handle this is to give each other some personal space. Start making a gang of ... | |
| Im Struggling | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: where to start? I met my girlfriend in July, after coming out of a very controlling relationship. ... A: Write her a letter (not an email) and send it with some flowers to her seeking an unconditional ... | |
| room mate problems | 12/30/2008 |
| Q: I allowed a friend to move in with me because he got evicted for owing on rent and he quit his job ... A: If you are his friend, right now your sympathy is only making him more lazy. Set him a deadline by ... | |
| Friendship on the rocks | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: A few months ago, I hung out with a close female friend/co-worker (Kathryn) while her long-term, ... A: This can now be set right only by meeting them both. If possible meet them and explain what ever you ... | |
| Perplexed | 12/23/2008 |
| Q: I just broke up w/ my g/f not quite a week ago. I lost her to alcohol. It basically came down to ... A: Hey Brandon, Belated birthday wishes !! Life is too short and too precious to waste on somebody who ... | |
| Insecurities | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: I am from an Asian country. I fel in love with an American & got married. Unfortunately, I got ... A: He loves you the way you are and you got to trust him when he says that. If you do not want to ... | |
| Please Advise Me. | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: Well, i'm a young woman about to hit my twenties and i'm having a bit of trouble with my ex ... A: He has decided to have you as a friend, so it won't go beyond that. There is no point in going back ... | |
| Moving out the right choice? | 12/16/2008 |
| Q: Myself and my boyfriend have been together for alittle under two years, he is in his late 20s and I ... A: He does not value the fact that you care for him, his health and his career. So moving out is the ... | |
| What can i do when girl is angry at me ? | 12/15/2008 |
| Q: I was working today at M&S and when i was on fitting room duty, this girl and i were talking about ... A: A girl is very touchy about her choice of clothes, any adverse remark and she can flare up. She can ... | |
| Business disagreement... | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband & I want to open some type of business in the next 3 years. We were both on the same page ... A: If you both have flourishing careers there are many a business ideas that you can consider, why a ... | |
| Relationship drama | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: :) I know this is long but this issue is complex and it wouldn’t be realistic if I removed essential ... A: Physical attributes of beauty cease to be important after a while as one grows up. But yes, ... | |
| husband is always telling me he doesnt love me | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: I don't know where to begin. I have been married to a man for 6 yrs. he is from another ... A: Am sure that if you walk in with a bag of clothes, his friends cannot throw you out physically. At ... | |
| yound widow sabotaging new love | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: 2 yrs ago, I became a widow from a sudden/tragic death w/the love of my life. 6 mos ago, I met a man ... A: Your grief is understandable but think what if he moves to another city forever and you never see ... | |
| Stupid argument | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: Alright, I'm a 17 year old teen who is currently attending high school and I'm in a relationship ... A: Your father feels that all this proximity will ultimately lead to sex and you are too young to ... | |
| husband is always telling me he doesnt love me | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: I don't know where to begin. I have been married to a man for 6 yrs. he is from another ... A: To make him believe in love again, pack a few clothes and go and join him. Tell him that you want to ... | |
| WORRIED | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: i am a college student and i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and we get in to ... A: The only way to solve this is to have a frank and open discussion. Make him realize that he is the ... | |
| husband is always telling me he doesnt love me | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: I don't know where to begin. I have been married to a man for 6 yrs. he is from another ... A: If you truly want to be with him, go and meet him somewhere more peaceful and open your heart out. ... | |
| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ... A: She is just taking you for granted knowing fully well that you value this relationship. Gradually ... | |
| Lost a true friend | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: I Vani, I lost a true friend with whom I was very close and even she was close to me. She has a ... A: Try and find out when does your friend normally go out for shopping, movies, to restaurants. You can ... | |
| Lost a true friend | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: I Vani, I lost a true friend with whom I was very close and even she was close to me. She has a ... A: Since you decided to support a victim, there has to be some sacrifice. You did a brave thing and ... | |
| This guy | 10/21/2008 |
| Q: My friend and I have been talking for about two months now and we like each other a lot. We're not ... A: You have said sorry and that's about all you can do. Leave him alone for a while, the moment he is a ... | |
| Arguments with my bf! | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: What should I do to resolve every argument with my loved one?? Every little thing we say && do ... A: You are too possessive about each other and that's the reason why you actually pay attention to ... | |
| girl problems | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: Hey I am having a little trouble with a girl that I just meet two weeks ago, every thing seemed to ... A: Am sure things must be good again. Just in case they are not, take her a bunch of roses and say ... | |
| Still holding a grudge | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together off and on for four years, its been mostly long distance. ... A: Its a little confusing for you both since this relationship has been on and off for four years, you ... | |
| my girl | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend and i went so well in our seven month relationship until she burst and said she ... A: You should just give her some time and space to gather her thoughts. Just let her know that you will ... | |
| boyfriend | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: Ok well I'm 6 months pregnant and me and my boyfriend fight all the time. I love him to death and ... A: This baby is going to bring in added responsibility and its quite possible that this is making him ... | |
| Blood group | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: I am having a A+ blood group.Please let me know what should be the blood group of my future wife?Is ... A: Its perfect, if she is also A+ there will be no problems in conception. Many countries mandate by ... | |
| help me asap | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: Ok So you answered my question and I understood you saying that maybe I wasn't ready for him which I ... A: Now that you know he is having sex with others, would you still want him back? Would you still want ... | |
| Girlfriend and relationship issues with family and kids | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: I am 32m successful Hispanic and I have been in a relationship with a Asian female 24 who still ... A: How ever much you try to convince her that your kids are not a burden but a bundle of joy, she would ... | |
| makeup as friends before its too late | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: I was in long distance relationship. He lives an hour away. My bestfriend introduced us.I was ... A: That best friend bit was just to seek an appointment with him, because if he is again his old ... | |
| makeup as friends before its too late | 8/3/2008 |
| Q: I was in long distance relationship. He lives an hour away. My bestfriend introduced us.I was ... A: Talk to him and tell him that you want to meet him (your best friend) once before you shift, so when ... | |
| longest fight with boyfriend | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: ok so first of all my bf moved away and so we arent dating anymore but we still have feelings for ... A: Yes Anna, You need to give him some more time. Just send an apology mail saying that you miss being ... | |
| we cant stop fighting | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: its very simple: i love my boyfriend more than anything else in the world.. hes everything to me.. i ... A: You got to give him some breathing space and in a way taste of his own medicine by getting busy with ... | |
| Relaionship problem - accusations | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for just over a year. My wife and I haven't lived together since we got married ... A: The only solution is to move in as soon as possible. Lot of people handle long distance ... | |
| getting my realtionship back together | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: me and my kids father arent on the right track any more. our trust is very bad with one another how ... A: He is the one for you if he takes good care of your kids, is there for you in not so good times and ... | |
| relationship trouble | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: whenever my boyfriend is drunk he says he cant be bothered with me anymore and wants me to go home. ... A: He says those mean things only when he is drunk, and when drunk a person has no control over his ... | |
| PROBLEMS!!! | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: I am soo confused, i dont know whether i am doing the right think or not. I have this wonderful ... A: There has to be a particular reason why these arguments have gone out of control off late. Is it ... | |
| confused | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: Yes I am involved with a man who does not trust me. He does not like me being friends with my ex (we ... A: Love is all about trust and respect. This relationship is killing all your spirit and constant ... | |
| Jealousy and difficulties getting my bf to talk and open up | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm 19 and he's 26. It was mainly my fault, I thought his lack of attention was him saying he didn't ... A: Each individual has a distinct style to cope with pressure or tension. Some close themselves up ... | |
| Jealousy and difficulties getting my bf to talk and open up | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: I'm 19 and he's 26. It was mainly my fault, I thought his lack of attention was him saying he didn't ... A: He is not jealous but he is possessive and protective of you. Guess text this other guy to stay off ... | |
| my partners jealouy and insecurity | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: I have known my partner for 9 months. I met him whilst on vacation and consequently we live in ... A: Leave him alone for a while and let him also do a bit of rethinking. In a long distance ... | |
| Stacy | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: BACKGROUND: Most of the time Stacy (54 years old) goes ALONE to the 99 cent store to buy the ... A: Stacy should take things lightly. Her Mom is at an age where she may even forget what she said two ... | |
| Stacy age 53, mom age 82 | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: Stacy buys blouses, sweaters and blazers at the 99 store and they really are gorgeous. She goes ... A: Stacy should do things she likes, keeping in mind that she explains to her Mom the logic behind ... | |
| my boyfriend is too touchy feely to other women | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: I have a problem with my boyfriend and one of his girlfriends being too touchy feely towards each ... A: Its plain and simple that if you really do not like something he should respect your feelings. I ... | |
| jealous or is he disrepecting me | 6/21/2008 |
| Q: should i be jealous about my man always wanting to watch women in bikinis and always staring at ... A: If this habit of his is getting too far, you need to take action. Next time you find him staring at ... | |
| I don't know what I did wrong? | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: Here are the details, a few weeks ago me and my girlfriend had an argument resulting in us breaking ... A: I think your intention was right that since you did something wrong you should apologize. This ... | |
| Regret | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm am really lost right now so I'm writing to you for an opinion. I was dating this girl for about ... A: Its not about you deserving her or not, its about the fact that she has moved on in life, so would ... | |
| 7 year relationship | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. We weren't together the all time tho... Its been on ... A: This relationship will suffocate you and kill your enthusiasm for life and all things good. I think ... | |
| Vani Please Help! THANK U!!! | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ... A: Am so sad to hear about your mother. You need to just calm down a bit and stop anlaysing Bryan's ... | |
| stacy who is 53 and mom who is 83 | 3/31/2008 |
| Q: IF THE FOLLOWING WAS SAID TO YOU BY YOUR MOM WOULD YOU BE INSULTED AND HOW WOULD YOU TAKE ALL THE ... A: I think age is calling on her mother and its nothing more than that. Old age makes people a little ... | |
| relationship | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: I am 26yrs old woman and I have a son of 4yrs old. My husband had affair with another women and ... A: You both are lucky to find true love. Go ahead with this marriage. He was always in love but will ... | |
| How do I let go? | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm in a relationship of about a year and a half. She is a single mom of two children. I have no ... A: Sorry Paul, I guess life is not so sweet at times. I am sure that you feel devastated right now but ... | |
| How do I let go? | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm in a relationship of about a year and a half. She is a single mom of two children. I have no ... A: This is surprising as any single Mom would love it if her boyfriend were to be close to her kids. ... | |
| ex | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: 1. my girl friend and I dated for almost 6 months. were both 25. 2 months into our relationship, ... A: Yes, its very important to say the sweet words once. At times a relationship may be taken only as a ... | |
| My husband | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: We got married 7 months ago and only now his true colors are coming out, He gets annoyed for no ... A: The only way to teach him a lesson is to ask him to rent a place for you both till your own house ... | |
| how do i get my ex fiance back | 2/6/2008 |
| Q: hello my fiance yesterday broke up with me because i am apperently acting like a child he started of ... A: A simple unconditional apology will do the trick. When you do apologize, don't defend your actions ... | |
| Mean Mother-in-law | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year- we are pregnant (due in March) and his mom is a gossip ... A: With some people the internet is a medium to communicate but for some this sharing of personal woes ... | |
| fighting with my mom | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: my mom and I get along well sometimes. but other times we fight a lot and its really been getting ... A: You belong to a different generation and so obviously things that look important to you may actually ... | |
| girlfriend depressing me | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: I don't know what's going on with my girlfriend. I don't even know where to begin. I feel as if I am ... A: You are there to solve all her problems but if she has issues in opening her heart then this ... | |
| anger | 1/19/2008 |
| Q: i and my bf, has been in relation ship for last 2 years, he is highly short temper and has ego ... A: The question is not how to handle him but will you want to spend your entire life with such a person ... | |
| rebel 15 yr old teenage daughter | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: This question is regarding a very good neighbour of ours. Thay have a 15 yr old daughter and till ... A: Try and watch a movie called 'Mitr' starring Shobhana, Nasir Abdullah, Preeti Vissa and directed by ... | |
| marriage problems | 1/5/2008 |
| Q: salamo aliko shiekh I am a woman 31 years old, and i am married to a 37 years old man, we are almost ... A: I think its best that this marriage is dissolved as you both don't trust each other any longer. If ... | |
| We disagree | 12/24/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 19 years. We have one 18 yr old together and he has 3 grown ... A: You need to speak to your husband on this firmly. Let him know that your opinion be taken when any ... | |
| boyfriend doubting on me | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: there is a friend of mine say A who is very jolly, good nature, charming but not flirt means he ... A: If being a boy friend he still cannot trust you, then he is not worth crying for. Orkut is a very ... | |
| want t o forget her | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: we had an affiar since 2 years , we are from India. 1- our casts were differnt 2- my dad and her ... A: She is entitled to have her opinion, you just get on with life. Get busy with your work, join a ... | |
| Heal a broken love | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: We are in love for more than one year.. suddenly one week i obserbed a change in her.. she at last ... A: Need some more info like your age, background, how you met, the break up and how it happened etc. to ... | |
| Arguments among friends | 11/20/2007 |
| Q: I am not sure if you are the right person to ask but hopefully you can give me some insight. My ... A: Your BF is right, you should not pursue this case any longer. If she had cared for you and your ... | |
| what do i do??? | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend / babies father, fight over the dumbest shit like ...he asked me if i knew where ... A: This is all hormones playing their role...when you have a baby things can be a bit difficult. Try ... | |
| please help | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: my name is matt I am 24, and my fiance is 22. My question is exactly like justin's, although it is a ... A: Talk to her parents and let them know the exact date of your arrival asking them to help you be with ... | |
| please help | 10/20/2007 |
| Q: my name is matt I am 24, and my fiance is 22. My question is exactly like justin's, although it is a ... A: You left the comforts of home to make money to keep her happy and now this !!! If possible leave ... | |
| the ice cream argument -.- | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: ok, i'll try to keep this as short as possible. my mom and my sister were having an argument the ... A: Just call up and if your Mom picks up just say since you seem to be angry with me still can I talk ... | |
| help? | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: i dont know if this is the right place to go, but it's sort of an argument. well let me start out by ... A: If you are sure you did nothing to upset him, then you don't bother. If he is acting snooty, so be ... | |
| How to get back my GF ??? | 10/5/2007 |
| Q: Am in deep trouble and I really don't know how to handle the situation. Let me relate you my whole ... A: I would say no lenghty stuff, just few words - 'You are the one I was looking for' or 'You are the ... | |
| my fiancee just left me after 5 yrs and it was out of nowhere | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: my fiancee and I were dating for 5 yrs and ingaged for 1. last night she told me she needed time for ... A: All of us feel confused some days in our lives...she is going through a lot right now. But that in ... | |
| Am I asking for too much? | 9/30/2007 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend going on 2 years. He's 46 and I'm 50. He keeps his body in very good ... A: Its not the "how many" but the satisfaction that should count. Just let him be for a while, he may ... | |
| love and friendship lol | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: ok well umm this is prolly gonna b pretty long..well to start im 17 years old turning 18 in december ... A: He has not forgotten you and still cares, he is just so afraid to show it now after all that chaos. ... | |
| love and friendship lol | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: ok well umm this is prolly gonna b pretty long..well to start im 17 years old turning 18 in december ... A: Its best to leave him alone for a while. Don't worry he will come back to you, just make him feel ... | |
| Between a rock and a hard place | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. I feel she might be the one which I will ... A: You have a moral right to expect her to remain attractive and work towards her appearance, no need ... | |
| I let too much out the bag how do I fix this situation? | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year, I'm 24 and he's 26. What happens is that ... A: Its not the quantity of time that you spend with him that matters, what matters is the quality. If ... | |
| WHAT DO I DO? | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years, I dont know what to do, I have had a bad ... A: Best way is to begin with your neighbours, or the kids living nearby. They never judge you as they ... | |
| WHAT DO I DO? | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years, I dont know what to do, I have had a bad ... A: Your friends feel that you left them out of your life, but you can always get them back in. A sorry ... | |
| How to change her heart. | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: Pls help me out!!! I love one girl she also love me. everything is alright. but the problem is her ... A: The task at hand right now is to bring her back. If you can trace her, try and visit her often. ... | |
| How to change her heart. | 8/22/2007 |
| Q: Pls help me out!!! I love one girl she also love me. everything is alright. but the problem is her ... A: She is 16 and in that age teens become rebels without a cause. You will first have to find about her ... | |
| I invaded his past - i was insecure he is angry | 8/6/2007 |
| Q: I tought my my boyfriend was away on a vacation with his Long term ex. He stills speaks to her and ... A: You actually read too much between the lines and tried creating a story where none existed. He is ... | |
| how do i understand my husband? | 7/30/2007 |
| Q: I am married for last 2.5 years. Because both of us are working, we spend very little time ... A: It may be that he is home tired and wants to be in a quiet corner, some men are like that. Try and ... | |
| Harmony is gone | 7/24/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I am 22 from Ct and going to grad school he ... A: You both need to sit and talk it out in detail and with all nuances. You are being a bit negative as ... | |
| help | 7/5/2007 |
| Q: i am 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and we have been going out for almost 7 months. And the past month we ... A: You can start by making a date wise plan where you get to meet him often, and making him agree to ... | |
| Conversation | 6/17/2007 |
| Q: I was out sick for two days in a row. When I came in I met Tania by the ladies room and she said; ... A: Tania never thought you were skinny, she was just bothered about your health and well being. Its ... | |
| suffering 4 past 3 years!!! | 6/16/2007 |
| Q: i really need ur help.. you are my last chance. will u help me? i have been suffering for the past 3 ... A: You have gone through a lot these years just trying to come to terms with this new found love of ... | |
| Conversation | 6/15/2007 |
| Q: I was out sick for two days in a row. When I came in I met Tania by the ladies room and she said; ... A: I guess you are a bit touchy about people calling you skinny, and most of us would be when we hear ... | |
| Conversation | 6/15/2007 |
| Q: I was out sick for two days in a row. When I came in I met Tania by the ladies room and she said; ... A: Remember Tania only wishes for your good health, so she only meant to show concern. All words like ... | |
| friends | 6/3/2007 |
| Q: My best friend Jordan and i are as close as brother and sister, but we just got a bug argument and i ... A: You can be rest assured that he will read all your mails and your SMS / text messages on his cell, ... | |
| help me | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: ok, I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and every time he goes out to hang out with ... A: That can be the underlying reason but if you want this relationship to succeed, you will have to ... | |
| help me | 5/29/2007 |
| Q: ok, I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and every time he goes out to hang out with ... A: This is happening as you love him and have become extremely possessive of him, you feel that you and ... | |
| ***** SHE BLAMES ME ALWAYS ***** | 5/20/2007 |
| Q: i've been with my gf 4 9 months now...im 19, catholic, and irish, shes 20, hindu, and indian...when ... A: The word ALWAYS can kill any relationship if used often in an argument. She is just immature as she ... | |
| boyfriend's anxiety | 5/14/2007 |
| Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years. Lately, we talk on the phone and I'll see him 1-2 during ... A: If you do care for him, its the time to understand his situation and help him overcome his anxiety. ... | |
| what a woman need in a man | 5/5/2007 |
| Q: I am asking this question because you are a Indian and can understand and solve my problem more ... A: To commit to a person takes courage, and with most Indians a marriage lasts a life time. So you can ... | |
| is it disrespectful to be friends with exes? | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: I always thought that it was the mature thing to do to remain friends with people you have dated, ... A: You have a sound logic to being friends with an Ex, but most people are on tenterhooks on this issue ... | |
| what a woman need in a man | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: I am asking this question because you are a Indian and can understand and solve my problem more ... A: Millions of pages have been written on what exactly men or women desire but its still a mystery. ... | |
| My mother and I | 4/27/2007 |
| Q: I'm sorry if this is a tad long but my mother and I are very close, our relantionship is truly one ... A: If possible try and have a look at this Movie DVD : ... | |
| anger problems | 4/17/2007 |
| Q: I have a problem with anger. My girlfriend and I separated because I got so angry and it scared her ... A: The fact that you accept that your anger is a problem, is a very good starting point. Are you ... | |
| relationships | 4/1/2007 |
| Q: I am at a bit of a loose end, I hope you can help. Iv been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 ... A: This reply is possible delayed and I hope all's well with you. I think you need to go ahead with ... | |
| Confrontational Grandparents | 3/30/2007 |
| Q: The Facts: My parents and I live in WA, my grandparents live in NY. In June, my father and I are ... A: You are lucky to have grand parents who love you so much and are concerned. I don't think so its ... | |
| Prom | 3/14/2007 |
| Q: I'm Maria. My boyfriend Chad and I have been together for a little over 1 1/2 years. He's 21 and ... A: You asked him to accompany you to the prom but he refused. Now find the most handsome guy around and ... | |
| Open Door Policy | 3/13/2007 |
| Q: I ran into a problem today that has created a real problem. I met this great woman three months ago. ... A: She has lived her entire life with this policy and it seems to have worked well for her, so why ... | |
| forgiveness | 3/11/2007 |
| Q: I will try and make this brief but so much has occured. Ive been in a relationship for 7yrs.I ... A: You have been almost like an angel forgiving and caring. But I guess you need to put a stop to this ... | |
| HELP ME FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! | 3/4/2007 |
| Q: "Im 17 yrs old and so Is the girl. We’ve known each other for 3yrs. We meet our freshman man and we ... A: She is confused, she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She cannot keep hanging on to you and ... | |
| Boyfriend and daughter | 2/28/2007 |
| Q: I don't think you really understand the problem. Frank doesn't really care about what happens to my ... A: If he hates that guy and shows displeasure towards your daughter, its justified. But he is cross ... | |
| Boyfriend and daughter | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: My daughter is dating a boy that I don't approve of and have had alot of trouble with in the past ... A: You don't like your daughter going back to that guy for various reasons, and you must have shared ... | |
| boyfriend issues | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years has recently chosen a religion that has convined him that sex is nothing ... A: From your mail, I can make out that its impossible for you to have a platonic relationship with him. ... | |
| Gradutating Guests | 1/19/2007 |
| Q: I am graduating this year and am facing a problem that could result in an arguement (which I want to ... A: You don't like your grand mother but your father likes his mother as much as he likes his father. If ... | |
| communication | 1/10/2007 |
| Q: "Can you please help mediate a very serious disagreement? My girlfriend and I were having a ... A: You are right when you say this is all related to the ever popular 'gender differences' theory. Have ... | |
| Concerned about a 14 yr old | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: yet rather some advice on a problem that my friend Ana is having with her daughter; below I am ... A: This is good that Ana has you as a friend to comfort her and help her out. Please let her know that ... | |
| he liked me the other day why not now? | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: My friend told me her brother liked me and i didn't believe it at first but then on msn he and his ... A: For some time stop meeting him and conversing with him till you are sure of your own feelings and ... | |
| What do you think? | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: I have been engaged now for a little over four months, but we have been together for a little over 7 ... A: I guess people are right, she isn't ready to get into matrimony or in a serious relationship as of ... | |
| Please Help | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: But i've tried talking to her but she always turn out shouting at me i'm raelly hurt and also ... A: If you have spoken to her and she pays no heed, start avoiding all get togethers. Have a gang of ... | |
| Please Help | 1/1/2007 |
| Q: I'm from Sri Lanka 23 year old female. My question is, 1) Why does my mum always argue/fight with ... A: This cannot be so specific as you think it is. Yes, at times your mother may be too pre-occupied ... | |
| Angry and hurt | 12/29/2006 |
| Q: For the past couple of months I have been trying to make my engagement with my fiance work. I have ... A: You got to release this pent up anger and emotions. If you want please do rave and rant, after all ... | |
| fight | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: My partner and I are in the middle of a HUGE quarrel and we need an outside opinion. Your profile ... A: There is no way a male or a female differ in feeling possessive about their partners, whatever the ... | |
| on feeling hurt | 12/10/2006 |
| Q: I just had a fight with my "bf" and I want to see if I'm unreasonable. We've been dating about ... A: You aren't being unreasonable at all, its human nature that you don't feel like sharing the time and ... | |
| Boyfreind | 11/7/2006 |
| Q: ...... My boyfreind and I have been on and off again for 6 years +... His is 6'8" and has a very ... A: Your mail does not say clearly how old you both are. If your boy friend's age is half of that of ... | |
| ex | 11/5/2006 |
| Q: I’m 15 years old. My ex is 17 I have a big problem me and my ex separated after 2 months, since then ... A: If you carry on texting or calling him up, there will be no end to it. Just plain and simple ignore ... | |
| Help! | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: I have extreme insecurity issues with my boyfriend for no reason. I deep down always believe that he ... A: Your problem is half resolved since you are ready to accept that there is a problem. On this, you ... | |
| Suggestions with son | 10/31/2006 |
| Q: My son is 17 years old and a senior in high school. He doesn't get into trouble at school. He is ... A: most parents are not able to handle the truth. You can try them : ... | |
| h | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I are thinking about getting back together.... I want to keep the spark alive if ... A: She is eventually going to meet many a men at work, on the street, in her neighbourhood. So you ... | |
| husband and his family | 10/29/2006 |
| Q: about 2 years ago, my mother-in-law had a massive stroke caused her to be bed-ridden and unable to ... A: Try and think if your invalid MIL were to stay with you forever? So this situation and arrangement ... | |
| Should I be concerned? | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: On several occassions, I have found evidence of my boyfriend looking at porn on the computer. ... A: Not at all, there is no reason to worry. He is indulging in something harmless, but yes there may be ... | |
| dependance? | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: I'm having problems with my relationship. My girlfreind is 16 and I guess you could say she doesn't ... A: You are not her guardian so its very clear that she cannot cling on to you as it will suffocate you ... | |
| my mom is driving me crazy | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: It's hard to explain, but my Mom seems to have this kind of ability to just drain me and make me ... A: If you stay in any countries of the western world you have many options to take help from family ... | |
| Why is he so insensitive | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have a great time together. We love being together and we have the same ... A: When a fight starts, you too also must be saying things that hurt him, right? So remember when two ... | |
| Relationship problems | 9/28/2006 |
| Q: I am 21 years old and I have a 3 year old girl and a 4 month old girl. I have been with my fiance ... A: Since you know a problem exists, that's a good beginning. The best way out is to take up a job, hire ... | |
| breaking up because of an argeument | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: "i met this woman a month ago and then became friends and before you know it i became her very ... A: The trick is sincerity, if you are true she can read it in your eyes. Yes, you can go the regular ... | |
| breaking up because of an argeument | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: "i met this woman a month ago and then became friends and before you know it i became her very ... A: You should just be open about it, that's it. Tell her in the exact words what she means to you and ... | |
| love? | 9/23/2006 |
| Q: The girl I like in the factory I work at is 27 and Black, I am 43 and married with two kids. I would ... A: That's very kind of you. I am sure that she holds you as a good friend and has high regards for ... | |
| what do i do? | 9/23/2006 |
| Q: ok,im 15 and i cheated on my x twice, one was on an accident (i got kissed), and the other was ... A: As they say actions speaks louder than words. Just try and be friends with her, try and approach her ... | |
| boyfriend wantz 2 be only friend. | 9/15/2006 |
| Q: i was seeing this guy for over a year and half...and we were damn serious abt our life future ... A: I think by telling him to change his atittude or quit jobs, you will actually make him stubborn. ... | |
| my parents will not accept the fact that i am living with my boyfriend! | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: my name is Fe.I am 19 yrs old, and in my first year of college. I just recently moved in with my ... A: Since your family some how does not trust your judgement, why don't you let them interact with your ... | |
| please help | 9/10/2006 |
| Q: well heres the thing me and my girlfriend have been going out for the past 9 moths. and when we ... A: First you need to take control of your emotions. This sudden burst of anger will do you no good. Its ... | |
| How can I fix this mess? | 9/2/2006 |
| Q: I am talking to this guy for like a few weeks and when we started talking we were both involved, ... A: For any relation to remain healthy, one must not try and bind the other person in shackles. If you ... | |
| Playing Games | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: A friend of mine likes to play games and it makes me very angry. Early this month she had a hip ... A: This is pretty surprising. Can you get some info about her from a mutual friend? Based on that just ... | |
| Playing Games | 8/28/2006 |
| Q: A friend of mine likes to play games and it makes me very angry. Early this month she had a hip ... A: It could also be that she tried but could not get across to your number, or that she wanted to talk ... | |
| Best friend dating ex | 8/23/2006 |
| Q: my name is Holli and I’m 14 years old. In advance, I’m sorry that this story is really long and ... A: This pressure of the new school is weighing you down. Also the fact that Amy is dating your ex, is ... | |
| confused | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: yes hello, well this is my problem, i have lived with my boyfriend for almost one year who ive known ... A: Plan more outings, picnics, movies. If he is taking no initiative, you make plans. For a few days ... | |
| love | 8/16/2006 |
| Q: My name is James. I have been dating a girl for the last 6 months. Things were going great, and we ... A: Its not important if she wants to come back, its important to know if you want her back and want to ... | |
| i needhelp? | 8/11/2006 |
| Q: well my name is jonatan and i went out with this girl for 1 year and we bothe fell inlove with ... A: Sorry but you need to move on in life. She is already busy with her new life and a new BF, that's a ... | |
| relationship trouble | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: First i would like to say thank you for your time, your answer was helpful. I would like to ask, do ... A: Before you part ways for a few days or weeks, sit with him and talk your heart out. Tell him that ... | |
| relationship trouble | 7/17/2006 |
| Q: I was dating a guy for about seven months before we broke up. For the past five months, we've been ... A: You need to give him some time to sort out his emotions. If you love something, set it free. If it ... | |
| Girl Loves to Argue | 6/30/2006 |
| Q: I am 35 years old, and I have been seeing a 39 year old widow for nearly two years. Last Tuesday, I ... A: As one grows older, the flexibility in the thought process or actions seems to disappear. A person ... | |
| HELP. | 6/30/2006 |
| Q: Reply | Forward | Delete Message #2237 of 2245 < Prev | Next > Hi yall..where do I start? I'm ... A: Nive way to put across your inner most thoughts. Sorry, but its goodbye time forever, you should try ... | |
How to Work Out Arguments With a Loved One
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