Working through the My Way to OUR WAY method, I offer engaged & married couples help with issues regarding love, conflict resolution, anger management, blended families (married with children), parental issues and sibling rivalry.
When in conflict, you might wonder:
Why does he/she DO THAT?!
I just understand him/her.
I can't get them to consistently start/stop!
Why is he/she so upset?
I'm in a lose-lose situation.
If you're stuck, it's because you THINK you have run out of opportunities. I can help you find more!!
Experience
Experience:
Highly experienced in the area of conflict, I believe that families can take full responsibility for solving their own problems, without the need for a long-term third party. I lead an association of counselors who I train so that they can train families on this method (within 5 sessions) and this has made a major difference for many families!
Education/Credentials:
Registered Counselor #RC00059845
M.S. in Management & B.A. in Communications
Formal Education in: Learning, Mediation and Coaching
Question I am 52 and he will soon be 62. Married 3 years, together 6 years. After we married he wanted me to sell my house, my car, and quit my job. I did all 3, with the promise that he, when he inherited this house, that my name would be put on the title. Which never has happend. (fight time)He smokes alot of pot, 300.00 a week. This last week he went to the accountant and the cpa told him to have his Mother put her house in his name. He came home and told me what all the CPA said, then informed me that he couldn't do that because if something happened to him, I would put his Mom out. I really love his Mom,I already have power of attorney from her. I pay all her bills. I sign on all her accounts. Not her checking just the bills. We haven't spoken since he said that. It bothers me that he would think that but what bothers me most is that he would have the nerve to say it outloud to me. How do I overcome this? If I leave, I move into a tent? No house, no car, no job. what now?
Answer Dear Susan,
Three things I want to clarify before working with you further:
1) Do you acknowledge you are the source of your own problems?
2) Are you aware that you feel stuck because you think you have ran out of options, but really there are so many other options out there?
3) Do you find yourself blaming your husband for your struggle, but know the only person you can change is yourself?
If you agree to the above 3 statements, please let me know your insights and questions.
It is easier to talk about your thinking rather than the circumstances you find yourself in today. This way, you don't get stuck in the stories of blame & shame, but rather see opportunities for a new way of solving your problems :)
