AboutVani Expertise Can handle all questions pertaining to arguments/difference of opinion among friends, spouses, family, colleagues. The crux is to understand the causality and personality of the people involved in such a complex situation.
Experience Being the eldest child in the family and also one of the eldest in the immediate family, I am a very popular person. A decade of work experience has also made be an expert on how to juggle with family and work life in a more balanced manner
Publications I am an expert in Indian Culture and Inlaw Relationship at allexperts.com
Education/Credentials Masters in Business Administration
Expert: Vani Date: 7/30/2007 Subject: how do i understand my husband?
Question I am married for last 2.5 years. Because both of us are working, we spend very little time together.When we are home,even if I want to spend time with my husband, he doesn't enjoy that.He would rather spend time watching TV or playing video games. We never share household works, even if i ask him to, he will do it reluctantly and I feel as though I am bothering him.If I insist, that he should spend more time with me, he gets irritated.He doesn't take initiative in anything, not even sex.I really have no idea why he always wants to stay away from me.The more I want to get close to him, the more I find him moving away.I have tried discussing the matter with him, but he ignores..I keep thinking all these and I am always stressed.I can't concentrate at work neither do I feel like doing any work at home.I feel frustrated.I really don't understand where the problem is. could you tell me where I am going wrong?
Answer Hi Gauri,
It may be that he is home tired and wants to be in a quiet corner, some men are like that. Try and analyze are you being too demanding at times? Also try and find is everything ok at his work place? If he avoids you, try and call friends and relatives over and see his behaviour, does it change? Was this marriage as per his liking ?
