AboutStacey Spirito, MS, SPHR Expertise Need help getting your self organized and working more effectively and efficiently! I can help! From dealing with workplace chaos to balancing your life...I can answer questions related to time and information management, organization, memory skills, dealing with stress, and how to flouish rather than frazzle!
Experience Stacey is a Human Resources and Workforce Development professional and consultant. She researches and develops instructional materials with a focus on teaching organizations how to communicate and create a more effective workplace. She has worked with numerous organizations within public and non-profit sectors, designing and realigning human resources and employee development for manufacturing, retail, and service industries. Many organizations have benefited from her insights, including large global corporations, small start-ups, IPOs, and non-profit organizations.
Stacey holds an undergraduate degree in human resource administration and a graduate degree in human development. She is a certified Senior Human Resources Professional (SPHR) as recognized by the Society of Human Resource Management and has been teaching, facilitating, and providing consulting services related to numerous human resource issues for more than a decade. She frequently leads workshops and classes on training techniques, employee development, and human resource issues for civic, professional, volunteer organizations, and at a college near Washington DC. She provides answers and guidance to human resource related questions as an expert on Allexperts.com and writes articles on creative training techniques, development strategies, and human resource issues.
Organizations Society of Human Resource Management
Phi Kappa Phi
Education/Credentials BS - Business Administration
MS - Human Development
Question I have a hard time disciplining myself in certain areas and procrastinate more than I feel is acceptable. I wonder if I have adult ADHD. I am a 39 year old single mother of three children. I have managed to purchase a home for my family and provide for them with no additional outside support or contribution, but I do not know how I do it. I spend money on things that we cannot afford or do not need, knowing that I have bills to pay. I now loath a job that I used to love due to a huge consolidation and re-structuring. I have no supervisor in my office and I waste too much time. I constantly am having to explain why I have not done something by a certain time and I have to break my neck to get things done when someone asks me about it becasue I just did not ever do it when it was first assigned to me. this all stresses me out to the max and I am tired of being this way. I have always been this way. I will spend hours in the garden, making crafts, rummaging throught junk at a yard sale, and cleaning my house and organizing closets, etc but when it comes to other things I have no such ambition. Please help!
Answer Coni,
What you describe is not uncommon. It is sort of a natural defense when we stress. It sounds like your work situation is one where you are juggling a lot of competing priorities. Best way to handle this is to break down each large duty into small pieces and have a check off to show yourself you are making progress. This also forces you to plan and maintain a list, which helps to focus.
If you do this and still have trouble focusing, then you might be in a job or career that does not fulfill you. This is also common. You have a lot of responsiblities and may have decided on a career that would enable the opportunity to provide for your family. It may be time to consider something else...or set a goal for yourself. Maybe through some additional training or additional education you would be able to change careers. I guess in other words, have you asked yourself...what is it I love to do and want to do. There is a saying...do what you love and the money will follow. It is true. Find your passion and make a plan to reach it.
I hope this helps...if I can provide you with additional information...please let me know.
